Flip Your Mornings from Frantic to Fantastic with These Morning Routine Ideas

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Having a good, solid, morning routine that nurtures from the very start of your day, is one of the best ways to practice self care, and to get your day of to a calm, good-vibe start. There’s only one thing that’s hard about starting a morning routine, and that’s getting a few good morning routine ideas, and actually starting a morning routine. As they say, the first step’s a doozy.

I know that most of us, first thing in the morning, want nothing more than to just keep sleeping. However, I promise you, if you make this small flip, from snoozing-button-pushing, to giving yourself the gift of extra you-time in the morning, you will come to love your morning routine.

Like most things, morning routines are personal. What works for one person, won’t work for another person. So, my 40yearflip friends, I’ll just toss a few morning routine ideas at you and, you decide which of these would work best for you.

Morning Routine Idea 1: Get Cozy with Your Favorite Morning Beverage

Whether you drink coffee or tea in the morning, you can make this part of your self care ritual. Don’t do as I used to, and pour your caffeine fix into your to-go cup, and chug it down in the car on the way to work. That’s not enjoying your morning beverage; that’s gulping it down just for the caffeine jolt.

Morning Routine as Self Care

Everything you eat and drink should be consumed for the health of your body, or to enjoy the taste, the temperature, the texture, and the experience food and drink can give you. Savor your bites and your sips, always. 


Try to have your first cup of coffee in the morning all alone and in silence. Make it just the way you like it. Serve it to yourself in your favorite mug and savor it. Really, savor your drink. Take a minute to appreciate the smell and taste.


You can read the paper, write in your journal, or sit on your patio and listen to the birds chirping as the sun comes up while you enjoy your beverage. This is another great reason to wake up a little earlier than everyone else in your household. You will be amazed at how much better you feel with just a few minutes to yourself.

Morning Routine Idea 2: Spend a Some Time with a Book


Reading is on the best morning routine ideas. If you can set your alarm for an earlier time, it gives you the chance to catch up on your reading. Find a book that is inspirational and helps motivate you for the day. In the morning, I tend to reach for self-development books or other nonfiction. I like to be inspired in the mornings. I save fiction for the evenings.


Read just a few pages or a whole chapter, depending on how much free time you have. This can be while you are having your morning coffee, or if you are listening to an audiobook, during your morning walk. This gives you some time in the morning to not worry about what’s ahead, or get stuck in planning mode. 


Related: Flip Your Untapped Creativity into a Fun Self Care Activity

Morning Routine Idea 3: Avoid the Internet 


You want isn’t self care? Doing what almost everyone does when they have a few minutes in the morning, getting online. Stressing yourself out over work email is the opposite of self care. Reading they typos in Donald Trump’s tweets is the opposite of self care. The same goes for checking your calendar, reading the news, and scrolling Facebook. Flip this behavior right on out of your life.

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There’s plenty of time, later in the day to do all those things. When you are trying to start a new morning routine for self care purposes, you should unplug all devices. Don’t spoil your morning by letting your cell phone feed you stress. I put my cell phone on Do Not Disturb mode before I go to bed, and I don’t take it off until I’ve officially started my work day. 


Morning Routine Idea 4: Meditate for 5 Minutes


The morning is also the ideal time to meditate and repeat mantras. Mantras are sayings or words that help to center your focus and make it easier to meditate. You can also try breathing exercises or traditional meditation. If you want to take a walk in the morning, that can also help you to meditate.

Read How to Do the 5 Minute Mediation for People Who Don’t Meditate

What does your morning routine look like? Be honest! It’s ok if it’s less than zen right now. We are all here to learn and flip those habits. Tell us below so we can be inspired (or, if your morning routine is in progress, so we can commiserate!) Got a great pic of what your mornings look like? Tag us on IG with #40yearflip

Using Creativity as Relaxing Self Care for Women

Self Care For Women Idea: Get Creative!

Self Care for Women

Despite what you’ve seen in Hallmark Channel movies, not all self-care for women involves going for taking a bubble bath. Instead, you can tap into the creativity that’s inside of you, just waiting to get out! And, please, don’t tell me you aren’t creative. You are. Everyone is to one degree or another; you probably just haven’t let your creative muses out of their cage since childhood.


Well, it’s time to unlock that cage, and get creative! The benefits of participating in a creative activity for self care are abundant. You will feel relaxed, accomplished, and you’ll tap into a well of creativity that you didn’t know you had. So, let’s channel our inner artists, writers, and creators, and reap the self care benefits. Here are some creative and artistic activities to help you practice self care:


Self Care for Women: Get Writing

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My go-to activity for creative self care is writing. Writing for self care can take many forms. If you have a story, burning inside of you, by all means, let those creative juices flow from your brain and out of your fingertips. If you enjoy playing around with words sounds, and meanings, try poetry.


Remember, no one ever needs to see the writing you do for yourself, so don’t be afraid to experiment. And most importantly, don’t be afraid of writing something that you think others will see as “bad poetry,” or “bad writing.” Your writing is no one else’s business but yours!

Related: How to Change Your Mindset and Flip from Unhappy to Happy

If you feel as if there’s an emotion in your chest or gut that you haven’t let flow out of you, or that you can’t really identify, freewriting is a great way to unleash that emotion. To freewrite, all you need to do is pick up a pen, get a sheet of blank paper, and write as quickly as you can--letting the words flow through you and on to the paper. It is important to write quickly so you don’t censor yourself. The idea here is to achieve a flow and get yourself into a trance-like writing state, so your inner feelings, thoughts, and emotions can come out. By freewriting, you can feel the feelings associated with that emotion, identify the root cause, and then address it. 


I find that when one freewrites like this, a lot of suppressed emotions can be released. Once these emotions are out of your body and on paper, you can then go one step further to releasing these feelings for good by burning the paper or tearing it up. If you aren’t ready to let them go, you could always keep the writing, of course, even if you don’t plan to ever read it again. 



Self Care for Women: Get Arty


Self care for women is about engaging in activities that makes you feel good about yourself and give you a break from whatever is causing you stress. By participating in creative and artistic self-care activities, you spend more time focusing on yourself and letting your inner creative bloom.

Artistic and Creative Self Care Ideas

Getting artistic is another super-easy way to be creative, while practicing self care. You should have some hobbies and activities you truly enjoy, just for yourself—activities that involve more than just watching Netflix and zoning out. 

So, grab a sketchbook and some art tools to draw, sketch, or paint as you wish. Don’t think you are capable of creating art? Well, you are wrong; everyone has at least a little artistic ability. Get on YouTube, and search for tutorials on sketching, watercolor painting, or even flow painting. Immerse yourself in a new way to be artistic and to create. Personally, I couldn’t draw a recognizable stick figure if my life depended on it, but it doesn’t mean I won’t try! 

Related: How to Slay Your Goals and Avoid Overwhelm

Self Care for Women: Get Coloring

Why is your Instagram account full of pictures of adults coloring? Because it’s a fun, addictive, therapeutic, and oh-so-pretty way to practice self care! I have seen adult coloring books focused on a wide variety of topics from The Golden Girls (which absolutely cracked me up, so of course I bought it!) to intricate, lacy mandalas.

Find one that fits your personality and is designed with the intricacy level you’re looking for. The more intricate the coloring book, the more patience, steadiness, and concentration it will take to complete a page. For some, a very detailed coloring book lets them zone out and get in the flow. For others, it will just seem like an unnecessary chore. We’re all different! So, flip to it, get one that appeals to you, and start coloring. This fun and easy self-care activity allows you to be creative and de-stress by simply coloring and not having to worry about anything. And bonus, it’s a great way to express your artistic side, even if you lack in artistic talent (slowly raises hand.)

Self Care for Women: Get Crafty

What better way to express your creative side than to learn something brand new? This is the perfect opportunity to get out there and try a new craft or form of art. You don’t have to be naturally artistic to be creative and enjoy any type of creative activity. Doing the activity isn’t the only way to taking better care of yourself, but also in learning how to do it. Think of some hobbies you always wondered about, like oil painting, making jewelry or metal stamping, or giving sewing or knitting a try. Go to Etsy.com and get inspired by all the great crafts, and then look up a tutorial for that craft. Or, visit some of these great crafty sites:

A Beautiful Mess  

Blueprint   

Crafting in a Green World    

30 Minute Crafts   

Get creative, ladies.

What’s your favorite way to get creative? Tell us all about it in the comments so you can inspire us. Or, get social with me on Instagram, and tag your self care pics with #40yearflip

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How to Be Happier Every Day and In Five Seconds Flat

Flip From Unhappy to Happy: How to Be Happier

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It is so easy to get stuck in the cycle of thinking that one day your life will be better, but just not right now. Or, even worse, that you are doomed to live an unfulfilling life, day in and day out, until one day, you die.

Ugh, that was depressing just to read. I can’t imagine living that way. Well, yes I can, because I did. I lived with that exact mindset for most of my entire adult life. I get it. But what so few realize is that it is so much easier to make the small flips in life that make us happier than to remain stuck and unhappy. 

And, if you are still stuck feeling this way, you, my friend, are not alone. Most people don’t realize that it’s in their grasp to learn how to be happier. As little experiment, I kept my curious little ears open all last week to hear how people talk about themselves and their lives. (Eavesdropping is one of my super powers, in case you were wondering.) 

Here are a few things I heard:

  • When I win the lottery, I’m going to retire, and move some place better than this. This place is depressing. (I wanted to say, “Yo, you live in Miami. People dream of retiring here. And you are…already here!) 

  • I’m not buying any clothes until I lose five pounds. (Ok, you know who you are, so I’m just going to say right here what I said to your face…Ummm, didn’t you say that like six months ago? And six months before that? And, I think you see where I’m going with this, right? Good! So buy the damn pants and enjoy the heck out of them!)

  • My life is so boring! (I didn’t know this person, but we were sitting at the same happy hour spot, and it was such a great happy hour spot. Who are these people being bored at a happy hour with free tacos? Yes, free tacos.)

How to Be Happier

How to Be Happier

If you are brave enough to admit to yourself that you can relate to these Debbie Downers (don’t worry, no one has to know), here are 4 quick and easy flips that’s teach you how to be happier in seconds: 

1. Focus on the Good Over the Bad

No matter how spectacularly blah-tastic your life seems right now, there are some shiny little objects you can hold on to. Do you have a warm place to sleep at night? Is your favorite TV show on the DVR, just waiting for you and a tub of ice cream? Did you just send out a meme to everyone you know and now the lols are rolling in? Is there a taco with your name on it out there in the universe (bonus points if it’s free!)?

Can you, your heart, and your brain land on at least 5 good things? Are there 5 things in your life that give you at least a glimmer of joy, hope, or just make you say, “Umm, yes, please!” Good. You are so lucky. You have so much to be happy about.

Related: Self Care Ideas for Women Who are Too Busy for Self Care

2. Look back with gratitude instead of regret

4 Easy Flips Can Teach You How to Be Happier in No Time

4 Easy Flips Can Teach You How to Be Happier in No Time

Every single thing that has happened to you in your life, every fall, every misstep, every lost lover, every forgotten opportunity, and even every mistake you’ve ever made has made you the you you are right now (there’s a heck-ton of “you”s in that sentence, but hey, this is self-help, and self-help is the one time where it really is ALL ABOUT YOU!) 


Even if you don’t think you are living your best life, or that you aren’t the ideal person you want to be, you know yourself better than anyone else in the world, and you know that you have a plethora of redeeming qualities. And, you’ve earned them. Yes, it would’ve been great if you got the promotion over Sally-know-it-all-down-the-hall, but you learned from that experience. It made you smarter. It made you a bit tougher. Maybe, hopefully, it made you evaluate what you want and what you can do to get it. 

Look back on all your past with gratitude—even the dark and ugly times. The bad times are the ones that give you grit. They are the experiences that build wisdom. You deserve a lot of respect for living through them and surviving, and no one owes you more respect for that than you do. Go you.



3. Flip Your Mindset from Negative to Positive

It sounds so simple because it is. It sounds too simple, in fact—too good to be true. But the truth is, it’s that simple, and it’s that hard. 


It’s simple because deciding to be positive really and truly makes you a happier person. When you decide to look for the positives in any situation, to appreciate the growth and knowledge gained from a less-than-stellar experience, it immediately makes you happier. This is what I call a flip. A flip is a small, quick mindset change that can improve your life.


Flip from dwelling on negativity, and looking for all the chances to be negative, and instead, look for those shiny objects you can grab and hold on to. It’s that simple. But it takes practice—that’s the hard part. 


Start practicing this flip with small things, and soon it will become part of your mindset tool collection. For example, let’s say that after work one day, you go to the grocery, intent on making your Grandma’s famous spinach lasagna. So far, so good. But, once you get there, you discover that they are out of her super-secret ingredient. As soon as your start hearing your brain say things like, “Of course, they don’t have what I need. Isn’t that typical. First I had a crap day at work, and all I wanted was some damn spinach lasagna, and now I can’t even have that. The world is against me. I have the worst luck.”


Flip that switch, girl, pronto. As soon as that voice starts babbling on, cut it off, and tell yourself that you just weren’t meant to make dinner today. And now you have time to finish reading the book you haven’t had time to read, and finally order from that cute new Italian place on the corner. Alone time + book + hot food delivered to your door = perfection. Damn, you’ve got it good.

Related: Why You Should Focus on Mindset if You Want to Be Happy

4. Remember You are in Good Company


I know you think that you are the only one who feels this way. You’re completely convinced that your next door neighbor, your friends on Facebook, and that promotion stealer, Sally-know–it-all-down-the-hall all have their sh*t together, and only you feel this way. But I promise you, that this is not true.


Evidence number 1—remember my little week of eavesdropping on Debbie Downers?


Evidence number 2—Let me tell you, I spend a good chunk of my everyday life, hanging out with other life coaches, and even they have their moments. We all do. And thinking that you are the only one who suffers with this, is just another belief that holds you back from being happier every day. 


So, those are 4 easy mindset flips that you can start practicing right now because you now know how to be happier. The hardest part is just remembering to implement them, and believing that you have the power to use these flips, and make them work for you. Say them aloud. Write them down. Set a reminder in your phone. Commit to them in comments, right here, right now. Do whatever it takes to remember, implement, and benefit. I believe in you. Don’t flip out. Flip your life. 

5 Fast Self Care Ideas for Women Who Think They’re Too Busy

Flip From Frazzled to Nurtured in No Time: Self Care Ideas

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Technically, we all know how important self care is for women, especially women over 40, who are constantly juggling more than they can handle. But, for busy women, self-care can feel like a luxury that we never have time for.

We’ve been fooled into thinking about spending time, energy, and money on self care as indulgent or selfish. I am here to tell you, right here, right now, flip those self-limiting thoughts and start telling yourself that self care is a vital habit to work into your daily schedule.

A major factor holding women back from practicing self care is they think they need to do something extravagant in order for it to count, or to work, or whatever. Repeat after me, this is not true. Self care doesn’t have to consist of extravagant, long weekends spent at the beach, a trip to the spa, or even taking those crazy expensive Soul Cycle classes. But, hey, if you can swing those things, have at it!

The truth is, self care can be anything (small or big) you do to give you and your body and or mind attention. I want you to take 10 minutes a day, every day this week, to spend on yourself. In fact, I insist.


Here are 5 self-care ideas that will take only 10 minutes out of your crazy schedule, but will still benefit your mind and body. Flip to it, girl.


Self Care Idea :. S-T-R-E-T-C-H it Out

Do you know that we tend to carry stress in our spines? This is especially true for those of us who spend long hours hunched over the computer, working on our feet, or picking up after the kids. Like many things in our busy lives, our posture and body take the backseat.


I know that when you get home, after you’ve made dinner, and ran all your errands, all you want to do is flop on the couch and flip through Instagram, or curl up with a good book. But, flip that habit. Just before you get ready for chill-out time, take just ten minutes to curl your spine down, and touch your toes. 


Self Care for Women Over 40: Stretching

If you can touch your toes, great, set a goal to be able to touch your palms to the ground by the end of next month. If you can’t touch your toes (don’t worry, no one needs to know!) no worries, most women over 40 haven’t been able to touch their toes in a long, long time. But you’ve got this! I believe in you.


Set a goal to be able to touch your toes in 3 months. Remember, any amount of stretching will do your aching joints and body some long-lasting good. Put that goal in your journal or on your reminders app in your phone.


While you’re at it, stretch the rest of your body as well. Perhaps you can look up a yoga posture, or you have a stretching routine in mind already. Whether it is advanced or basic, any kind of stretching will keep your body functioning well despite periods of inactivity. Touch your toes, extend your arms and gear yourself up physically and mentally for whatever task is at hand.


Self Care Idea 2: Massage and Moisturize


I know you are crazy busy. I am, too. And I know that I tend to want to jump out of the shower in the morning, dry myself off as quickly as I can, and rush to get dressed. But, I’ve trained myself to spend an extra 10 minutes, indulging in my favorite potions and lotions. It’s great for relaxing before a sure-to-be hectic day, and it will keep you looking younger, longer. Total win-win. 


First, do your facial skin-care routine. I used to just moisturize and go—I never invested in lots of serums, toners, and masks. But, that has all changed now, my friends. I am a subscription box junkie, and now my beauty kit is overflowing with fabulous concoctions. And, I don’t even notice the small amount of money I spend on them—the value far outweighs the costs! And let me tell you, I see a huge difference in the my skin. Huge! 


Next, it’s time to pamper the rest of your body. If you don’t have any special body lotions around, use a natural lotion such as organic coconut oil or avocado oil, and rub it mindfully into your arms and shoulders, and legs. Spread the cream or oil gently and thoroughly and use your hands to massage over your body across areas that you might not realize are aching. You might come across some sudden sore spots, it’s important to focus on those for a moment, rubbing in the lotion. You will be relaxed and energized and your skin will benefit greatly from the extra moisturizing.


Related: Creative Self Care Ideas for Women



3. Drink 2 Additional Glasses of Water Per Day


Water is that little magic potion we all too often ignore: it relieves fatigue, clears skin, detoxes your body, improves digestion, and prevents cramps. And yet we often forget to hydrate, or hydrate so little we get headaches as a result. Not only will drinking two glasses of water help you hydrate, it will also give you much-needed time to get away from your technological devices and focus on your surroundings.


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Drink the water slowly and savor the break from you work before you dive back into it. Take it in slow sips, and be sure to follow this tip regularly to met your daily requirement of H2O. 


Not a big water fan? I used to hate water. I know that sounds weird, but I did. But for people who don’t like water, you are just not used to drinking it. You have to condition yourself by drinking water several times a day, every day.


And, I was terrible at remembering to drink it. I invested in a 25 ounce Swell bottle, that I now remember to take with me every day. I got the big one, and I fill it up every morning, and I don’t allow myself to go to bed until I’ve consumed every last drop. It helps to add in a little squeeze of fresh lemon or lime to add a touch of flavor. Sometimes, I add in fresh mint leaves, too. It’s so refreshing. 


Related: Why You Should Be Drinking Lemon Water Every Morning


4. Play with your pet or go for a walk


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Whether it’s a furry friend or a tank full of fish, scientists have proven the health benefits of animals at every turn. A pet of your own means a faithful companion. And, spending time with a pet is a proven way to lower blood pressure and increase oxytocin levels.

The enjoyment from pets can be calming and repetitive motion of petting your companion (or even staring at a fish tank!) will help soothe you. Don’t have a pet? Go for a walk to your local dog park; just taking in the sights of other dogs and animals has the same impact on your wellbeing. 


5. Phone a Friend, you Chatty Cathy, You


At a time where connectivity options are abundant, it’s funny how disconnected we actually are. The troubles of everyday life can be exhausting and drain us of all the time and will to socialize beyond what is absolutely necessary. During our free time there are personal things we need to tend to that make socializing take a back seat. But to truly care for ourselves, we need to nurture social and emotional aspects as well.


While it’s easy to pick up your phone and send a text, take ten minutes out of your day to chat with a friend or family member. You benefit just as much as they do. Simply talk about your day and maintain the feeling of being connected. Your support system can help relieve stress and help you to maintain a healthy mindset through your shared bond.


Self care isn’t just about facials, eating your greens and getting your hair done. It’s also about the soul food that fuels you and the small things that make big impacts on your overall wellbeing. By practicing these 5 tips, you get to spend a handful of minutes away from whatever it is you do each day and you get to separate yourself from the chaos and stress of your daily life.


Do you practice some sort of self care? Share with us below, and give us some fresh ideas. Or, head on over to Instagram and tag your self care pics or stories with #40yearflip.


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