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5 Strategies to Learn How to Live in the Moment and Tap into your Intuition

Flip Your Mindset and Flip Your Life by Learning How to Live in the Moment

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Being stuck in blah-mode is like living your life on autopilot. You know, just getting through the day to day in a fog, not paying attention to the world around you, not getting out there and slaying your goals, not being in touch with your body and feelings. It’s just blah. I spend a huge chunk of my adult life living without intention, and stuck in my head instead of in the moment, all day, every day. And then I learned how to live in the moment and with intention, every day. And now, I look back on those lost days and realize how much I regret living years in blah mode.

Read More About Blah Mode Here: Why Living and Eating With Intention Will Change Your Life for the Better



How did I flip from floating through life, numbing out on food and social media, thinking that I'll get to my to-do list tomorrow, and tomorrow, and tomorrow and never, to learning how to live in the moment? 



By living with intention and learning how to live in the moment using these 5 tools:



1. Stay mindful: It is important to notice the small details of life and environment around you—this is the basics of learning to live in the moment. Observing more of the world around you nourishes your mental state, and mental well being is imperative for an intuitive soul. Check in with yourself throughout the day and ask yourself if you are actually living in the moment. When you walk, feel your feet pressing into the ground, hear the sounds around you, feel the temperature of the air. Just be where you are and let all your 5 senses work for you. When you feel disconnected, a good trick is implement the 5 Sense Flip: check in with your senses and ask yourself--What do I see? hear? smell? feel? taste? This is a great little flip to pull you out of the blah-zone and into living in the moment. Try it!



Ideal Times to Try Out the 5 Sense Flip to Living in the Moment:

  • When you are out walking the dog, or just out walking yourself (even if it’s just to the mailbox.)

  • When you are eating! Try to avoid eating at your desk, in front of the TV, or while doing anything other than eating and socializing. Eating should be something you focus on and enjoy—savor those meals! And it’s a communal time, a time to check in on the people in your life. Try to have family dinners around the table as often as possible.

  • When you find yourself driving on autopilot (You know what I’m talking about; you decide to stop at the store on the way home from work, and only realize that you didn't turn left to go to the grocery store once you’re in your own driveway.)

  • When you are with family and friends. It can be so easy to drift back into your own head when your teenager is telling you all the latest gossip about a fight that broke out between YouTube “stars,” whom you’ve never heard of, and start daydreaming of the next vacation you’re planning to take. (Can you all tell I’m using a real life example here?) But, this is the time to deploy the 5 Sense Flip, and be present mentally with the people you are present with physically. Yes, even teenagers! lol



2. Check in with your body: Intuition is often dismissed as random emotions or an insignificant, random thought inside your head that is often ignored. This is because you haven’t learned to live in the moment, and so you are out of tune with your body. Intuition could present itself as a warning sign such as unexpected goosebumps or an uneasy feeling in your gut, or it could be a fluttering of your heart with excitement. Pay close attention to these feelings and see if you can connect what your body and mind are trying to tell you. Trust your gut a little more than usual this week and see if you discover something about yourself.

3. Avoid overeating, especially out of boredom or for a food high: Did you know that overeating is detrimental to not only your physical health, but to your mental health as well? Eating too much makes you feel bloated and depresses your mental abilities, such as concentrating. And, we all know the terrible feeling of coming down from a sugar high or food high and regretting the poor choices we've made. When we aren’t living in the moment, we tend to eat zoned out or based on emotional needs rather and physical needs.

A healthy body and a healthy mind go together. That's why here at the 40yearflip, we aren't concerned as much with weight loss for attaining a "perfect body," as we are with wellness--body, mind, and spirit. Our goal is to always eat mindfully and, if we do so, weight loss will be just an added bonus! Once you learn to eat with intention, your relationship with food changes, and you no longer have to “diet.”

Read More: Flip from Emotional Eating to Mindful Eating



4. Boost your psychological immune system: Just like with physical health, you need to boost your mental health immunity. That way, things that used to get you down won't anymore. Develop a positive outlook towards life and your environment. Staying optimistic, forgiving others, being more easy going, managing stress and avoiding mental trauma all add up and can enhance your psychological well being. This doesn't mean be blindly positive and ignoring when things go wrong. There's a huge difference between being positive and being blissfully ignorant! A person with a positive attitude is living in the moment, and is able to recognize when something is wrong, but they've just learned to proactively take on the challenge of a bad situation instead of wallowing in it. 




5. Learn to trust your intuition: Intuition is that small voice inside us--the one that guides us through the dos and don’ts of life. Your brain and body tell you when you need to exercise, when you need to eat a salad instead of a pizza (or the opposite, sometimes, you just need to eat the pizza--the important word here is SOMETIMES), when you need a self-care day, but often, we just aren't listening. Try to tune into your intuition by living in the moment and listing to that little voice inside your head, and by using these flips and strategies, and see if you can get more in-tune with yourself and living in the moment this week! 


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How to Declutter Your Mind So You Can Feel Balanced

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We are more in control of our own emotions, thought patterns, and mood than we give ourselves credit for. Most of us believe that our brains just work on their own wave lengths, and we are just along for the ride. Well, my 40yearflip friends, this is simply not true. Or more accurately, it doesn’t have to be true. We all accept the fact that if we want a healthy body, we need to exercise our bodies in order for them to be strong, and vibrant. So why don’t we accept the same for our minds? In order to feel balanced, you have to learn to declutter your mind.

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It’s 100% true. If you want your mind to be healthy, happy, and balanced, you need to work on your thought patterns, be in tune with your own moods, and declutter your mind. And, yes, this takes practice. But think of it as taking your brain to the gym. 



How to Declutter Your Mind Exercise #1:  Flip Negative Thoughts Right the Hell On Out ASAP

 

Once you get in the habit of remembering to implement this exercise, it becomes your most powerful tool to being happier. But, remembering to do it is the hard part. All you have to do, whenever you find yourself thinking a negative thought, particularly one that is critical of yourself, like, “I’m no good at this,” “I look fat today,” “I feel old,” is to flip that thought right the hell on out, like pronto.

 

You don’t have to negate it with self-affirming mantras, or even by telling yourself that the opposite is true; you just have to acknowledge that you are being unproductively negative, and flip that thought out of your brain. When I catch my kids expressing negative thoughts about themselves aloud, I clap my hands and say, “Flip that thought!” It’s become embedded in the little folds of my brain at this point, so whenever I catch myself being negative, I think those words, and I do a quick hand clap. I even do this in public, which might look strange, but I don’t really care, because it works!

Read more about how to flip negative thoughts: FLIP: FROM UNHAPPY TO HAPPY

How to Declutter Your Mind Exercise Exercise # 2: Train Your Brain to Flip the Switch on Worry

 

Similar to flipping negative thoughts about yourself, you need to do the same thing when it comes to worrying about things you cannot control, especially things that you have no real reason to believe will ever happen. It’s natural for us to worry. Some degree of worrying is good, because it makes us go through life in a careful and cautious manner. But when we get in cycle of worrying about things we cannot control, on auto-loop, it can make us more anxious and feel out of balance. 

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Flip those thoughts!

 

For example, once upon a time, our house burned down. We lost almost all of our physical possessions. Luckily no one was injured. But for years afterwards, I was constantly worried that we would be trapped in a fire or other disaster, especially, for some reason, in public spaces. My worrying over this intensified whenever I wasn’t with my children. I would obsessively worry that if I went out to eat without my kids, the restaurant could catch on fire. 

 

And trust me when I tell you that housefires were not nearly the only things I obsessively worried over. I was quite adept at finding danger lurking in every corner to the point where I rarely separated from my kids, even just to run to the store. At some point, I realized that I was letting my worrying thoughts control how I was living rather than me being in control of my own thoughts. So, every time I would catch myself in the cycle of worry, I would implement the same thought-flip from Brain Exercise #1. 

 

It seems so simple, but it is very effective. And, the more you implement this thought-flip, the easier it gets. My brain will still go to these dark thoughts when I’m not being vigilant, but I flip the thoughts out as soon as I recognize them. 


How to Declutter Your Mind Exercise #3: Practice Self Care

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I see it over and over again, and I’ve lived it. Women tend to give and give and give, until they are empty and exhausted. By the time we’ve hit our forties, we’ve spent decades giving our time, love, and energy to our children, spouses, family, friends, and careers, and we put ourselves last. This leads to feeling unfulfilled, lonely, exhausted and unbalanced. And for those of us who really never carved out a life for ourselves, it can feel as if you are living a life that isn’t your own. 

 

Well, my friends, this is clearly not a healthy way to live. So many women feel guilty whenever they take time for self care. Flip that thought, right now. You must, must, must practice self care. There is nothing selfish about it. It’s a mandatory exercise for a healthy mind, body, and spirit. And, when you practice self care, you fill yourself back up, so that that there is an overflow to pour out to other people, making you a better lover, mother, friend, co-worker, and human.

 

Self care can be as extravagant as a weekend getaway with your girlfriends, or as simple as getting up 20 minutes early to read a book in silence before your day kicks off. 

 

Read more ideas for self care:

FLIP A BAD DAY INTO A MANAGEABLE ONE WITH SELF-CARE ACTIVITIES

FLIP YOUR MORNINGS FROM FRANTIC TO FANTASTIC WITH A MORNING ROUTINE

FLIP YOUR UNTAPPED CREATIVITY INTO A FUN AND RELAXING SELF CARE ACTIVITY

5 SELF CARE FLIP FOR WOMEN WHO ARE TOO BUSY TO PRACTICE SELF CARE




 

How to Change Your Mindset and Flip Your Life

Why should you change your mindset if you want to flip your life?

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Too often we are focused on our external circumstances when we think about being happier. We will be happier when we get the kitchen renovated, get that promotion at work, or finally lose the extra fifteen pounds from that last pregnancy nine years ago. But, the truth is, none of those things have the power to make people happy. Instead, we just need to change our mindset! Only by changing your mindset can you feel happier.

 

Your mindset has profound effects on everything: self-esteem, health, relationships, and careers. Your mindset is even more powerful than your circumstances in setting the course of your life, and in terms of how happy and content you feel.  Unlike experiencing random circumstances, it’s possible to change your mindset and flip your life. With some specific activities and intentions, you can radically flip your reactions to common experiences in your life.

 

But, as with any change, it’s tough. Every day we have to scroll though endless bad news in our social media feeds, or yet another natural disaster somewhere in the world. But what affects us even more is that nagging voice in our heads that are constantly whining, “I’m so tired,” “I’m fat,” “I don’t know what I’m doing.”

And when you feel blah, you radiate blah, and you attract blah. I’m sure you’ve heard of the Law of Attraction, that law that says your negative mindset will just keep attracting more negativity in your life. Well, it’s true. And once you change your mindset, you’ll see just how powerful the Law of Attraction is. So, stop using it against you, and start using it as your tool to flip your life.

Related: 5 Minute Meditation for People Who Don’t Meditate

Change Your Mindset

 Sadly, we are often moving through life on auto-pilot and we glaze over all the best things in our life.  You know the old saying, “Stop and smell the roses.” Well, do you? I mean seriously, do you? How often do you take a walk and truly appreciate nature? Watching the sunrise or the sunset is an awe-inspiring thing. It’s 100% free, and it happens Every. Single. Day. And yet, we miss it.


Why is it so damn hard to stay in that happy, positive place?

Journaling is a great way to change your mindset!

Journaling is a great way to change your mindset!

 

Because thought patterns are learned, and once they are ingrained in your mind, your mind tries to keep you in that space. The more you allow yourself to repeat negative thoughts, the more ingrained these thoughts become in your mind, and the harder it is to flip those thoughts and your mindset. If you want to flip your life, you must change your mindset, so that you can be happier and more content. And they way to do that is to train your brain. If you want a fit body, you need to train. If you want a fit mind, you need to train, as well.

 

But how? Well, I’m glad you asked. I’ve created a super-simple, 5-Day 40yearflip Mindset Challenge to get you flipping that mindset from negative to positive. It’s easy and painless, and totally FREE. And, it’s designed to make it easy for you to start focusing on mindset and actively working to change your mindset and flip your life.


If you want to create great things in your life, then you have to start by expecting yourself to achieve great things. Ready?  Let’s do this! Click on the link below to join, and an email from me will zoom straight to your inbox.

Self Care Activities to Flip a Bad Day Into a Good Day

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Bad days, we’ve all had them. We will all, inevitably, have more of them. But, my 40yearflip friends, it’s how we deal with these bad days that separates the old us from the new us. When you have a bad day, you might find yourself popping a bottle of Cabernet, and ordering a pizza to numb yourself out on alcohol and carbs. I’ve been totally guilty of that a hundred times (ok, maybe more like a thousand.) But, over time, I’ve flipped the carb-stuff and booze-binge for a better option—self care activities.


Don’t get me wrong. There is absolutely nothing wrong with a good glass of wine or a good slice of pizza every now and then. In fact, I indulge in both regularly. It’s only bad if you are using these things to numb-out. When you indulge in the things you like to eat and drink, it should be done for the simple pleasure of it.


Self Care Activity 1: Read a Good Book

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My number-one, go-to, most-favorite way to banish the blahs of a bad day is to dive into a good book. Books are magical; they transport you out of your everyday life and plop you into someone else’s. When you immerse yourself in a story, the thoughts that give you stress, kind of lay low for a while.


In fact, if the negative thoughts that were bringing you down, were actually not as bad as you let yourself believe, there’s a good chance that by the time you stop reading, those negative thoughts will have faded away.


Self Care Activity 2: Netflix and Giggle


Comedy is a powerful tool for mood lifting, and I’m not joking. Don’t underestimate the power of laughing! If you are having a terrible day, tune in to a funny movie or TV show. Re-watching an old favorite comedy can make you and laugh and bring back good memories as well.


You know the old saying, “laughter is the best medicine?” That’s because laughter releases endorphins, your body’s happy chemicals, making you feel instantly happier. This, in turn, decreases stress and boosts immunity! So laugh yourself silly, happy, and healthy.


Related: Flip Your Mornings from Frantic to Fantastic


Self Care Activity 3: Get Out of the House


If you feel like the walls are coming in on you, or if you feel like you are beginning to cocoon yourself into your house, it’s time to get out and see some different scenery and some actual humans. If this is you, then getting out to socialize and meet up with friends might be your best bet.


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When you find yourself doing nothing but working and going home, you may simply need another outlet. Try meeting co-workers for drinks after work or calling up a friend to have a girls’ night out. I suggest downloading the meetup app, and finding a group-based activity to partake in. Get a little bit out of your comfort zone and it can be very good for you.

Self Care Activity 4: Spend More Time with Friends and Family

I know I tend to cocoon myself into my own little world when I’m not feeling 100% emotionally. I tend to cut myself off a bit. But that’s no bueno! Whenever you notice this happening to you, you’ve got to flip that behavior and reach out to the people who make you happy. This was a hard flip for me to make in my life, and even though it sounds simple, like all things, sometimes it’s not. 

Related: How to Declutter Your Mind So You Can Get Happy

Spending more time with your loved ones can be great for self care. Many people think being alone is the only way to take care of themselves and relieve stress, but sometimes the best thing for you is being around others. Think about your daily lifestyle and what tends to stress you out. You might find that you feel worse when you are constantly alone, but your mood seems to lift on happy hour night or when visiting your best friend. This is a good sign that what you really need is to get out and spend more time with others.

Self Care Activity 5: Get Social Online

We are more connected now, by more devices and apps than we have ever been. There is literally no reason to ever feel alone and disconnected. Get active on social media with like-minded people. Hit me and other 40yearflip friends up on Facebook or Instagram.

Find other Facebook pages and Instagrams to interact with based on your interests. There are pages for everything from specific TV show fandoms to reading clubs to gardening, you name it, there’s a Facebook page for it. And don’t be afraid to jump in and post and participate. Social media is SOCIAL, that’s the damn point. And these pages thrive on activity and couldn’t exist without interaction.

Ok, ladies, tuck these self-care activity ideas into the folds of your brain and pull them out next time you are feeling down in the doldrums. Comment below on what self-care activities work for you, and/or, just for fun, what you like on your pizza when you AREN’T eating it to numb-out.


Why You Should Focus on Mindset if You Want to Be Happier

Why should you focus on your mindset if you want to flip your life?

Too often we are focused on our external circumstances when we think about being happier. We will be happier when we get the kitchen renovated, get that promotion at work, or finally lose the extra fifteen pounds from that last pregnancy nine years ago. But, the truth is, none of those things have the power to make people happy. Instead, we just need to flip our thinking—aka our mindset! Only by focusing on your mindset can you feel happier.

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Your mindset has profound effects on everything: self-esteem, health, relationships, and careers. Your mindset is even more powerful than your circumstances in setting the course of your life, and in terms of how happy and content you feel.  Unlike random circumstances, mindset is something you can learn to control and change. With some specific activities and intentions, you can radically flip your reactions to common experiences in your life.

 

But, as with any change, it’s tough. Every day we have to scroll though endless bad news in our social media feeds, or yet another natural disaster somewhere in the world. But what affects us even more is that nagging voice in our heads that are constantly whining, “I’m so tired,” “I’m fat,” “I don’t know what I’m doing.”

 

And when you feel crappy, you radiate crappy, and you attract crappy. I’m sure you’ve heard of the Law of Attraction, that law that says your negative mindset will just keep attracting more negativity in your life. Well, it’s true. And once you focus on your mindset, you’ll see just how powerful the Law of Attraction is. So, stop using it against you, and start using it as your tool to flip your life.

 

Sadly, we often miss seeing the wonderful things in our life.  You know the old saying, “Stop and smell the roses.” Well, do you? I mean seriously, do you? How often do you take a walk and truly appreciate nature? Watching the sunrise or the sunset is an awe-inspiring thing. It’s 100% free, and it happens Every. Single. Day. And yet, we miss it.

Why is it so damn hard to stay in that happy, positive place?

Journaling is a great way to focus on mindset

Journaling is a great way to focus on mindset

 

Because thought patterns are learned, and once they are ingrained in your mind, your mind tries to keep you in that space. The more you allow yourself to repeat negative thoughts, the more ingrained these thoughts become in your mind, and the harder it is to flip those thoughts and your mindset. If you want to flip your life, you must focus on your mindset so that you can be happier and more content. And they way to do that is to train your brain. If you want a fit body, you need to train. If you want a fit mind, you need to train, as well.

 

But how? Well, I’m glad you asked. I’ve created a super-simple, 5-Day 40yearflip Mindset Challenge to get you flipping that mindset from negative to positive. It’s easy and painless, and totally FREE. And, it’s designed to make it easy for you to start focusing on mindset and actively working to flip that mindset from negative to positive.


If you want to create great things in your life, then you have to start by expecting yourself to achieve great things. Ready?  Let’s do this! Click on the link below to join, and an email from me will zoom straight to your inbox.