5 Strategies to Learn How to Live in the Moment and Tap into your Intuition

Flip Your Mindset and Flip Your Life by Learning How to Live in the Moment

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Being stuck in blah-mode is like living your life on autopilot. You know, just getting through the day to day in a fog, not paying attention to the world around you, not getting out there and slaying your goals, not being in touch with your body and feelings. It’s just blah. I spend a huge chunk of my adult life living without intention, and stuck in my head instead of in the moment, all day, every day. And then I learned how to live in the moment and with intention, every day. And now, I look back on those lost days and realize how much I regret living years in blah mode.

Read More About Blah Mode Here: Why Living and Eating With Intention Will Change Your Life for the Better



How did I flip from floating through life, numbing out on food and social media, thinking that I'll get to my to-do list tomorrow, and tomorrow, and tomorrow and never, to learning how to live in the moment? 



By living with intention and learning how to live in the moment using these 5 tools:



1. Stay mindful: It is important to notice the small details of life and environment around you—this is the basics of learning to live in the moment. Observing more of the world around you nourishes your mental state, and mental well being is imperative for an intuitive soul. Check in with yourself throughout the day and ask yourself if you are actually living in the moment. When you walk, feel your feet pressing into the ground, hear the sounds around you, feel the temperature of the air. Just be where you are and let all your 5 senses work for you. When you feel disconnected, a good trick is implement the 5 Sense Flip: check in with your senses and ask yourself--What do I see? hear? smell? feel? taste? This is a great little flip to pull you out of the blah-zone and into living in the moment. Try it!



Ideal Times to Try Out the 5 Sense Flip to Living in the Moment:

  • When you are out walking the dog, or just out walking yourself (even if it’s just to the mailbox.)

  • When you are eating! Try to avoid eating at your desk, in front of the TV, or while doing anything other than eating and socializing. Eating should be something you focus on and enjoy—savor those meals! And it’s a communal time, a time to check in on the people in your life. Try to have family dinners around the table as often as possible.

  • When you find yourself driving on autopilot (You know what I’m talking about; you decide to stop at the store on the way home from work, and only realize that you didn't turn left to go to the grocery store once you’re in your own driveway.)

  • When you are with family and friends. It can be so easy to drift back into your own head when your teenager is telling you all the latest gossip about a fight that broke out between YouTube “stars,” whom you’ve never heard of, and start daydreaming of the next vacation you’re planning to take. (Can you all tell I’m using a real life example here?) But, this is the time to deploy the 5 Sense Flip, and be present mentally with the people you are present with physically. Yes, even teenagers! lol



2. Check in with your body: Intuition is often dismissed as random emotions or an insignificant, random thought inside your head that is often ignored. This is because you haven’t learned to live in the moment, and so you are out of tune with your body. Intuition could present itself as a warning sign such as unexpected goosebumps or an uneasy feeling in your gut, or it could be a fluttering of your heart with excitement. Pay close attention to these feelings and see if you can connect what your body and mind are trying to tell you. Trust your gut a little more than usual this week and see if you discover something about yourself.

3. Avoid overeating, especially out of boredom or for a food high: Did you know that overeating is detrimental to not only your physical health, but to your mental health as well? Eating too much makes you feel bloated and depresses your mental abilities, such as concentrating. And, we all know the terrible feeling of coming down from a sugar high or food high and regretting the poor choices we've made. When we aren’t living in the moment, we tend to eat zoned out or based on emotional needs rather and physical needs.

A healthy body and a healthy mind go together. That's why here at the 40yearflip, we aren't concerned as much with weight loss for attaining a "perfect body," as we are with wellness--body, mind, and spirit. Our goal is to always eat mindfully and, if we do so, weight loss will be just an added bonus! Once you learn to eat with intention, your relationship with food changes, and you no longer have to “diet.”

Read More: Flip from Emotional Eating to Mindful Eating



4. Boost your psychological immune system: Just like with physical health, you need to boost your mental health immunity. That way, things that used to get you down won't anymore. Develop a positive outlook towards life and your environment. Staying optimistic, forgiving others, being more easy going, managing stress and avoiding mental trauma all add up and can enhance your psychological well being. This doesn't mean be blindly positive and ignoring when things go wrong. There's a huge difference between being positive and being blissfully ignorant! A person with a positive attitude is living in the moment, and is able to recognize when something is wrong, but they've just learned to proactively take on the challenge of a bad situation instead of wallowing in it. 




5. Learn to trust your intuition: Intuition is that small voice inside us--the one that guides us through the dos and don’ts of life. Your brain and body tell you when you need to exercise, when you need to eat a salad instead of a pizza (or the opposite, sometimes, you just need to eat the pizza--the important word here is SOMETIMES), when you need a self-care day, but often, we just aren't listening. Try to tune into your intuition by living in the moment and listing to that little voice inside your head, and by using these flips and strategies, and see if you can get more in-tune with yourself and living in the moment this week! 


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Why Living With Intention Will Change Your Life for the Better

Flip from Living in Blah Mode to Living With Intention

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How often are you actively participating in your own life, in the moment? How much time do you spend either locked up in your own head, or zoned out, staring at a screen, letting time pass you by? Living with intention is the secret to living a balanced and fulfilling life.


So many of us just go through life in blah mode. And we don’t even realize that we aren’t living with intention.


Why? Because it’s easy. It’s easy to just move through life without intention and just live your day to day. It’s easy to get through the day and veg out on the couch at the end of it and wait for it all to start over again tomorrow.


Sure it seems easy, but what it’s not is fulfilling, challenging, exciting, or vibrant. And, it’ll keep you stuck and not moving forward. It’s blah. It’s being stuck in the blahs.


It sounds cliché, but honestly, how often do you connect with yourself and the world around you? How often to you propel yourself though your life, slaying goals and making progress? What intentions have you laid out for your life, your year, your week, your day? Hell, what intentions do you have for this minute (hopefully, by now, I’ve convinced you to make your current intention to learn how to live with intention!)


When you flip the switch on blah mode and start living with intention, you open yourself up to living a life of design, but you also open yourself up to feeling more deeply, making more mistakes, and realizing that you are in charge of your own life.


Scary shit, right?

Yes. 


But, it’s worth the scary shit. Because once you flip out of blah mode, and start living with intention, you can live a life by design. You can bust out of floating through life and start living each day with intention. And these single days of living with intention, build on each other, one by one, until they create a well-designed life.


By living with intention, you can build, day by day, an entirely new life, whatever that looks like for you. For someone, it could be as simple as learning to live with more gratitude, so that they could be happier on a daily basis. For others, it could be totally starting over, in midlife, with a new career, relationship, new life.


And, while you are on this journey to flipping your life, by being actively present in yourself and living with intention, you will manifest joy. You will begin to love each day. You will feel your body move. You will taste every bite of food. You will feel balanced. You will feel grounded. You’ll feel some bad stuff, too, but you’ll be more equipped to face these things, with intention.


And you will make progress in your life. You will set goals and reach them. Whatever those goals may be.



How to flip from the blah mode to living with intention:

 

1.     Living with intention requires making thoughtful and informed decisions. You can start with what you want to get out of today. Or, if you are a think-big kind of girl, start thinking long-term. What do you want to accomplish? What do you want to own? What kind of life do you want to live? What hobby should you be enjoying? Where do you want to travel to? What do you want to learn? Make some choices and then choose your actions each day in accordance with those objectives.



2.     Every time you do something ask yourself why. Why is it you everything you do. You should be able to recognize why you choose to do certain things. 

 

To live with intention, you must evaluate and understand yourself. Why do you do the things you do? Why do you fail to do the things you don’t do?

 

·     What motivates your actions each day? Are you moving toward short-term pleasure or avoiding short-term pain? Or are your actions directed toward an intentional purpose?




·     Before taking any action, ask yourself what your intention is. Is spending 2 hours on Facebook helping you reach your goals for today? For the week, month, year, life? Then don’t do it. However, if you are feeling like you haven’t been in touch with family and friends lately because you’ve been too busy at work, spending 2 hours on Facebook might be what you need to do in order to feel reconnected.  




·     Evaluate all of your chosen and avoided behaviors. Learn what make you tick. And, what actions do you avoid taking because it’s just easier not do? Should you have cleaned your garage out like months ago? Is there a doctor’s appointment you’ve been putting off? Putting things off seems easier than doing them, but in reality, it’s not. They will still need to be done, eventually, and your brain will nag you until you do it. This, in the end, will just make you feel bad about yourself. So, flip out of procrastination and get shit done.

3.     Try to choose what’s productive and important over what is easy. Living with intention involves taking effective action over choosing the easy way. Continuously ask yourself, “Is this the most effective action I could be taking?”




4.     Flip your habits. Evaluate your bad habits and flip them! When do you tend to waste time? Do you get enough sleep? Are you in tune with your body? Do you eat with intention? Do you take time for self care? Do you take time to create a pleasant environment? 

 

Evaluate your habits and flip the ones that are not contributing to your daily and long-term goals.




5.     Lay out your intentions for each day. Carve out 5-10 minutes a day to decide on your daily goals and what you intend to do each day. I find that my Bullet Journal is invaluable for this. I don’t know about you all, but the older I get, the more I forget. I need to write down anything that I need to remember.




6.     Be proactive. Don’t leave everything to the last minute. The feeling of getting ahead of your goals and getting shit done is amazing! It feels way better than eating a plate of cookies (which, let’s not lie, sometimes feels pretty darn good, too.) Celebrate every victory. Congratulate yourself for every goal met. And, it’s 100% true that when your to-do list is all neatly crossed off, you sleep better and feel happier.




7.     The key to intentional living is mindfulness in all parts of life. Be mindful of your intentions, thoughts, eating, actions, goals, and of living in the moment.

 

Related: 5 Strategies to Learn How to Live in the Moment

8.    Be a mindful eater. Eating is vital to live and is a pleasure. But so many people eat mindlessly and without intention. It is vital to your health to be a mindful eater. Just as with goals and intention, when you eat, you ask yourself why. Why are you eating what you’ve chosen to eat. Most of the time, the answer should be because you are hungry, and you’ve chosen to eat something that is nutritious, and delicious. Sometimes, however, it will be, well, I really want a piece of cake today. I haven’t had cake in a while. It’s a nice treat, and I trust myself to make healthy choices after this yummy indulgence. And, I’m going to enjoy the hell out of this piece of cake.

 

You must make conscious decisions and question your thoughts and actions.Seek to be more aware of your desires and choose your behaviors accordingly. Habits can be the bane of intentional living unless you chose your habits intentionally.

 

Be mindful and take responsibility for your results, and you’ll find that more of your results please you.

 

So, set an intention for today and then get out there and slay it! Write in the comments (scroll down passed the contest form) one small goal you hope to check off your list this week so that we can all send you productive and positive vibes. I’ll go first!

How to Change Your Mindset and Flip Your Life

Why should you change your mindset if you want to flip your life?

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Too often we are focused on our external circumstances when we think about being happier. We will be happier when we get the kitchen renovated, get that promotion at work, or finally lose the extra fifteen pounds from that last pregnancy nine years ago. But, the truth is, none of those things have the power to make people happy. Instead, we just need to change our mindset! Only by changing your mindset can you feel happier.

 

Your mindset has profound effects on everything: self-esteem, health, relationships, and careers. Your mindset is even more powerful than your circumstances in setting the course of your life, and in terms of how happy and content you feel.  Unlike experiencing random circumstances, it’s possible to change your mindset and flip your life. With some specific activities and intentions, you can radically flip your reactions to common experiences in your life.

 

But, as with any change, it’s tough. Every day we have to scroll though endless bad news in our social media feeds, or yet another natural disaster somewhere in the world. But what affects us even more is that nagging voice in our heads that are constantly whining, “I’m so tired,” “I’m fat,” “I don’t know what I’m doing.”

And when you feel blah, you radiate blah, and you attract blah. I’m sure you’ve heard of the Law of Attraction, that law that says your negative mindset will just keep attracting more negativity in your life. Well, it’s true. And once you change your mindset, you’ll see just how powerful the Law of Attraction is. So, stop using it against you, and start using it as your tool to flip your life.

Related: 5 Minute Meditation for People Who Don’t Meditate

Change Your Mindset

 Sadly, we are often moving through life on auto-pilot and we glaze over all the best things in our life.  You know the old saying, “Stop and smell the roses.” Well, do you? I mean seriously, do you? How often do you take a walk and truly appreciate nature? Watching the sunrise or the sunset is an awe-inspiring thing. It’s 100% free, and it happens Every. Single. Day. And yet, we miss it.


Why is it so damn hard to stay in that happy, positive place?

Journaling is a great way to change your mindset!

Journaling is a great way to change your mindset!

 

Because thought patterns are learned, and once they are ingrained in your mind, your mind tries to keep you in that space. The more you allow yourself to repeat negative thoughts, the more ingrained these thoughts become in your mind, and the harder it is to flip those thoughts and your mindset. If you want to flip your life, you must change your mindset, so that you can be happier and more content. And they way to do that is to train your brain. If you want a fit body, you need to train. If you want a fit mind, you need to train, as well.

 

But how? Well, I’m glad you asked. I’ve created a super-simple, 5-Day 40yearflip Mindset Challenge to get you flipping that mindset from negative to positive. It’s easy and painless, and totally FREE. And, it’s designed to make it easy for you to start focusing on mindset and actively working to change your mindset and flip your life.


If you want to create great things in your life, then you have to start by expecting yourself to achieve great things. Ready?  Let’s do this! Click on the link below to join, and an email from me will zoom straight to your inbox.

Flip Your Mornings from Frantic to Fantastic with These Morning Routine Ideas

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Having a good, solid, morning routine that nurtures from the very start of your day, is one of the best ways to practice self care, and to get your day of to a calm, good-vibe start. There’s only one thing that’s hard about starting a morning routine, and that’s getting a few good morning routine ideas, and actually starting a morning routine. As they say, the first step’s a doozy.

I know that most of us, first thing in the morning, want nothing more than to just keep sleeping. However, I promise you, if you make this small flip, from snoozing-button-pushing, to giving yourself the gift of extra you-time in the morning, you will come to love your morning routine.

Like most things, morning routines are personal. What works for one person, won’t work for another person. So, my 40yearflip friends, I’ll just toss a few morning routine ideas at you and, you decide which of these would work best for you.

Morning Routine Idea 1: Get Cozy with Your Favorite Morning Beverage

Whether you drink coffee or tea in the morning, you can make this part of your self care ritual. Don’t do as I used to, and pour your caffeine fix into your to-go cup, and chug it down in the car on the way to work. That’s not enjoying your morning beverage; that’s gulping it down just for the caffeine jolt.

Morning Routine as Self Care

Everything you eat and drink should be consumed for the health of your body, or to enjoy the taste, the temperature, the texture, and the experience food and drink can give you. Savor your bites and your sips, always. 


Try to have your first cup of coffee in the morning all alone and in silence. Make it just the way you like it. Serve it to yourself in your favorite mug and savor it. Really, savor your drink. Take a minute to appreciate the smell and taste.


You can read the paper, write in your journal, or sit on your patio and listen to the birds chirping as the sun comes up while you enjoy your beverage. This is another great reason to wake up a little earlier than everyone else in your household. You will be amazed at how much better you feel with just a few minutes to yourself.

Morning Routine Idea 2: Spend a Some Time with a Book


Reading is on the best morning routine ideas. If you can set your alarm for an earlier time, it gives you the chance to catch up on your reading. Find a book that is inspirational and helps motivate you for the day. In the morning, I tend to reach for self-development books or other nonfiction. I like to be inspired in the mornings. I save fiction for the evenings.


Read just a few pages or a whole chapter, depending on how much free time you have. This can be while you are having your morning coffee, or if you are listening to an audiobook, during your morning walk. This gives you some time in the morning to not worry about what’s ahead, or get stuck in planning mode. 


Related: Flip Your Untapped Creativity into a Fun Self Care Activity

Morning Routine Idea 3: Avoid the Internet 


You want isn’t self care? Doing what almost everyone does when they have a few minutes in the morning, getting online. Stressing yourself out over work email is the opposite of self care. Reading they typos in Donald Trump’s tweets is the opposite of self care. The same goes for checking your calendar, reading the news, and scrolling Facebook. Flip this behavior right on out of your life.

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There’s plenty of time, later in the day to do all those things. When you are trying to start a new morning routine for self care purposes, you should unplug all devices. Don’t spoil your morning by letting your cell phone feed you stress. I put my cell phone on Do Not Disturb mode before I go to bed, and I don’t take it off until I’ve officially started my work day. 


Morning Routine Idea 4: Meditate for 5 Minutes


The morning is also the ideal time to meditate and repeat mantras. Mantras are sayings or words that help to center your focus and make it easier to meditate. You can also try breathing exercises or traditional meditation. If you want to take a walk in the morning, that can also help you to meditate.

Read How to Do the 5 Minute Mediation for People Who Don’t Meditate

What does your morning routine look like? Be honest! It’s ok if it’s less than zen right now. We are all here to learn and flip those habits. Tell us below so we can be inspired (or, if your morning routine is in progress, so we can commiserate!) Got a great pic of what your mornings look like? Tag us on IG with #40yearflip

How to Slay Your Goals and Avoid Overwhelm

Flip: From #AllTheThings to Slay Your Goals

Let me guess, you’ve got plans. Big ones. Goals too—lots of them. Well, then, ladies, let’s learn how to slay your goals and avoid overwhelm.

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You start with a small plan, and then you think and think about it, and your little plan to becomes #allthethings!. For example, say you decide that you are going to start eating healthy. And, after you decide on this pretty vague, general goal, your plan to eat healthy has suddenly morphed into something like this:

I’m going to wake up every morning at 5am, go for a 5 mile jog, while listening to self-help audiobooks, and plan out my entire week while running, and while listening to the self-help audiobooks. Then, when I get home, I’m going to make a kale shake with every superfood known to man blended up in it, and take some supplements, and then I’m going to pack another shake to take to work, because I’m never going to have take out every again for the rest of my life. Like ever.

And then, at work, on my lunch break, I’m going to powerwalk around the parking lot while chugging my health shake and listening to more self-help audiobooks. And then, after work, I’m going to go to the gym and join pilates, yoga, spinning, indoor paddleboarding, and sign up to run a marathon. Or better, yet, I’ll sign up to run every marathon in America! 

And then what happens? 

·      You don’t do any of it because you are overcome with overwhelm. 

·      You blame yourself for not achieving any of your goals. 

·      You end up feeling like poo poo about yourself. And then you eat 2 pints of ice cream, while binge watching HGTV, all the while, beating yourself up with negative, self-deprecating thoughts. 

Sound familiar?

I know it does, because we all go through this.

You are not alone. You are not defective. You are not bad at sticking to plans. You are not unable to reach goals. 

You just got caught in the cycle of #allthethings!. And the cycle of #allthethings keeps you from slaying your goals.

We all want to be our best. And our brain sometimes tricks us, and sets us up for failure, but trying to rush us into being our ideal self.

But no worries, because I’m going to tell you exactly what’s happening in that well-meaning brain of yours, and, most importantly, how to flip those thoughts it so you can slay your goals, every time with the one-flip-at-a-time method.

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Yes, your brain means well. It’s trying to make you be your best self. But, often, in this pursuit, it kicks into overdrive, and lays out a plan that, when executed correctly, takes time. 

So what’s the solution? How can you flip from #AllTheThings to focused goal setting and slaying your goals with the one-flip-at-a-time method?

1.   The first step is to recognize when your brain flips into #allthethings! mode. 

2.   Next, tell yourself to stop the cycle. 

3.   Understand that your self-worth is not dependent upon whether or not you can manage #allthethings! or not. Don’t value yourself so low. 

4.   Now, it’s time to actually tackle the initial goal. Likely, when you decide to take on #allthethings!, you actually started with a small goal in mind, before you let your brain go into perfectionism mode. Focus on that one small thing. Set out a single, achievable goal for yourself, and a realistic timeline to work toward and slay your goal.

Related: Flip Your Mornings from Frantic to Fantastic with a Morning Routine

For example, say you decide that you’re going to make yourself a kale and berry shake every weeknight before bed, so that in the morning, when you are rushing to get ready, your healthy breakfast is ready for you. You don’t need to think about it. The work was done the night before. Great. That is a single, attainable goal.

Set out to slay it. Repeat this one goal until it becomes a habit--until you do this naturally as part of your evening and morning routine. Once it’s part of your routine, you have successfully slayed your goal!

5.   Once this goal has been slain, add in a second goal. Let’s say you are firmly in the habit of making your weekday shakes at night, and drinking them every morning. Now, what is the next small, attainable goal you can work into your routine? Do you want to add in 20 minutes of walking in the morning? Add it in.

Once you figured out how to slay your goal, and the morning walk has become part of your daily routine, you could choose to add in a 3rd, attainable goal. And so on and so forth, until you are slaying it forever and always.

6.   Avoid the temptation of #allthethings!. Once you have reached a milestone, your brain is going to try to convince you to that you can handle adding in a few more goals, and speeding up your timeline. Do not fall for it. Keep your momentum slow and steady. Be the tortoise, not the hare!

7.   Do not let your #allthethings! brain convince you that small victories are not enough. Be proud of every victory, every reached goal. In fact, be proud of every attempt at reaching a goal. 

8.   Do not criticize yourself too harshly if you don’t perfect every goal, every time. Instead, celebrate your small wins, and forgive yourself for small missteps. If you do miss a goal. Shake it off and try again.

Keep that momentum going!

Flipping from #allthethings! to focused goal setting and achieving takes practice and patience with yourself. But it is worth it. You are training yourself to be a goal-slaying master.

Slay Your Goals and Avoid Overwhelm with the One Flip At A Time Method

Slay Your Goals and Avoid Overwhelm with the One Flip At A Time Method

Implement this one-flip-at-a-time method every time you want to achieve something. By using this method, you rewire your brain and train it to slay your goals in a focused and organized manner, designed to set you up for success. And, once you start slaying those goals, you will learn to think of yourself as a goal slayer, which in turn, will make it even easier to continue on your journey to a better you.

You have it in you to slay those goals. I believe in you. What are you big goals, and how can you slay them by flipping from #allthethings! to focused goal setting and achieving? Lay them out in the comments! And then hit the slay button.

Did someone say slay button? Well, here it is! I’ve made a handy-dandy worksheet, just for you, so that you can flip from#AllTheThings to focused goal setting and achieving, no matter what your goals are.

5 Fast Self Care Flips for Women Who Think They’re Too Busy

Flip: From Frazzled to Nurtured in No Time

Self Care: Spending Time with Pets is Good for your Soul and for your Pets’ Too

Self Care: Spending Time with Pets is Good for your Soul and for your Pets’ Too

Technically, we all know how important self care is for women, especially women over 40, who are constantly juggling more than they can handle. But, for busy women, self-care can feel like a luxury that we never have time for.

We’ve been fooled into thinking about spending time, energy, and money on self care as indulgent or selfish. I am here to tell you, right here, right now, flip those self-limiting thoughts and start telling yourself that self care is a vital habit to work into your daily schedule.

A major factor holding women back from practicing self care is they think they need to do something extravagant in order for it to count, or to work, or whatever. Repeat after me, this is not true. Self care doesn’t have to consist of extravagant, long weekends spent at the beach, a trip to the spa, or even taking those crazy expensive Soul Cycle classes. But, hey, if you can swing those things, have at it!

The truth is, self care can be anything (small or big) you do to give you and your body and or mind attention. I want you to take 10 minutes a day, every day this week, to spend on yourself. In fact, I insist.

Here are 5 self-care flips that will take only 10 minutes out of your crazy schedule, but will still benefit your mind and body. Flip to it, girl.

1. S-T-R-E-T-C-H it Out

Do you know that we tend to carry stress in our spines? This is especially true for those of us who spend long hours hunched over the computer, working on our feet, or picking up after the kids. Like many things in our busy lives, our posture and body take the backseat.

I know that when you get home, after you’ve made dinner, and ran all your errands, all you want to do is flop on the couch and flip through Instagram, or curl up with a good book. But, flip that habit. Just before you get ready for chill-out time, take just ten minutes to curl your spine down, and touch your toes. 

Self Care for Women Over 40: Stretching

If you can touch your toes, great, set a goal to be able to touch your palms to the ground by the end of next month. If you can’t touch your toes (don’t worry, no one needs to know!) no worries, most women over 40 haven’t been able to touch their toes in a long, long time. But you’ve got this! I believe in you.

Set a goal to be able to touch your toes in 3 months. Remember, any amount of stretching will do your aching joints and body some long-lasting good. Put that goal in your journal or on your reminders app in your phone.

While you’re at it, stretch the rest of your body as well. Perhaps you can look up a yoga posture, or you have a stretching routine in mind already. Whether it is advanced or basic, any kind of stretching will keep your body functioning well despite periods of inactivity. Touch your toes, extend your arms and gear yourself up physically and mentally for whatever task is at hand.

2. Massage and Moisturize

I know you are crazy busy. I am, too. And I know that I tend to want to jump out of the shower in the morning, dry myself off as quickly as I can, and rush to get dressed. But, I’ve trained myself to spend an extra 10 minutes, indulging in my favorite potions and lotions. It’s great for relaxing before a sure-to-be hectic day, and it will keep you looking younger, longer. Total win-win. 

First, do your facial skin-care routine. I used to just moisturize and go—I never invested in lots of serums, toners, and masks. But, that has all changed now, my friends. I am a subscription box junkie, and now my beauty kit is overflowing with fabulous concoctions. And, I don’t even notice the small amount of money I spend on them—the value far outweighs the costs! And let me tell you, I see a huge difference in the my skin. Huge! 

Next, it’s time to pamper the rest of your body. If you don’t have any special body lotions around, use a natural lotion such as organic coconut oil or avocado oil, and rub it mindfully into your arms and shoulders, and legs. Spread the cream or oil gently and thoroughly and use your hands to massage over your body across areas that you might not realize are aching. You might come across some sudden sore spots, it’s important to focus on those for a moment, rubbing in the lotion. You will be relaxed and energized and your skin will benefit greatly from the extra moisturizing.

3. Drink 2 Additional Glasses of Water Per Day

Water is that little magic potion we all too often ignore: it relieves fatigue, clears skin, detoxes your body, improves digestion, and prevents cramps. And yet we often forget to hydrate, or hydrate so little we get headaches as a result. Not only will drinking two glasses of water help you hydrate, it will also give you much-needed time to get away from your technological devices and focus on your surroundings.

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Drink the water slowly and savor the break from you work before you dive back into it. Take it in slow sips, and be sure to follow this tip regularly to met your daily requirement of H2O. 

Not a big water fan? I used to hate water. I know that sounds weird, but I did. But for people who don’t like water, you are just not used to drinking it. You have to condition yourself by drinking water several times a day, every day.

And, I was terrible at remembering to drink it. I invested in a 25 ounce Swell bottle, that I now remember to take with me every day. I got the big one, and I fill it up every morning, and I don’t allow myself to go to bed until I’ve consumed every last drop. It helps to add in a little squeeze of fresh lemon or lime to add a touch of flavor. Sometimes, I add in fresh mint leaves, too. It’s so refreshing. 

4. Play with your pet or go for a walk

Whether it’s a furry friend or a tank full of fish, scientists have proven the health benefits of animals at every turn. A pet of your own means a faithful companion. And, spending time with a pet is a proven way to lower blood pressure and increase oxytocin levels.

The enjoyment from pets can be calming and repetitive motion of petting your companion (or even staring at a fish tank!) will help soothe you. Don’t have a pet? Go for a walk to your local dog park; just taking in the sights of other dogs and animals has the same impact on your wellbeing. 

5. Phone a Friend, you Chatty Cathy, You


At a time where connectivity options are abundant, it’s funny how disconnected we actually are. The troubles of everyday life can be exhausting and drain us of all the time and will to socialize beyond what is absolutely necessary. During our free time there are personal things we need to tend to that make socializing take a back seat. But to truly care for ourselves, we need to nurture social and emotional aspects as well.

While it’s easy to pick up your phone and send a text, take ten minutes out of your day to chat with a friend or family member. You benefit just as much as they do. Simply talk about your day and maintain the feeling of being connected. Your support system can help relieve stress and help you to maintain a healthy mindset through your shared bond.

Self care isn’t just about facials, eating your greens and getting your hair done. It’s also about the soul food that fuels you and the small things that make big impacts on your overall wellbeing. By practicing these 5 tips, you get to spend a handful of minutes away from whatever it is you do each day and you get to separate yourself from the chaos and stress of your daily life.

Do you practice some sort of self care? Share with us below, and give us some fresh ideas. Or, head on over to Instagram and tag your self care pics or stories with #40yearflip.

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Why You Should Focus on Mindset if You Want to Be Happier

Why should you focus on your mindset if you want to flip your life?

Too often we are focused on our external circumstances when we think about being happier. We will be happier when we get the kitchen renovated, get that promotion at work, or finally lose the extra fifteen pounds from that last pregnancy nine years ago. But, the truth is, none of those things have the power to make people happy. Instead, we just need to flip our thinking—aka our mindset! Only by focusing on your mindset can you feel happier.

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Your mindset has profound effects on everything: self-esteem, health, relationships, and careers. Your mindset is even more powerful than your circumstances in setting the course of your life, and in terms of how happy and content you feel.  Unlike random circumstances, mindset is something you can learn to control and change. With some specific activities and intentions, you can radically flip your reactions to common experiences in your life.

 

But, as with any change, it’s tough. Every day we have to scroll though endless bad news in our social media feeds, or yet another natural disaster somewhere in the world. But what affects us even more is that nagging voice in our heads that are constantly whining, “I’m so tired,” “I’m fat,” “I don’t know what I’m doing.”

 

And when you feel crappy, you radiate crappy, and you attract crappy. I’m sure you’ve heard of the Law of Attraction, that law that says your negative mindset will just keep attracting more negativity in your life. Well, it’s true. And once you focus on your mindset, you’ll see just how powerful the Law of Attraction is. So, stop using it against you, and start using it as your tool to flip your life.

 

Sadly, we often miss seeing the wonderful things in our life.  You know the old saying, “Stop and smell the roses.” Well, do you? I mean seriously, do you? How often do you take a walk and truly appreciate nature? Watching the sunrise or the sunset is an awe-inspiring thing. It’s 100% free, and it happens Every. Single. Day. And yet, we miss it.

Why is it so damn hard to stay in that happy, positive place?

Journaling is a great way to focus on mindset

Journaling is a great way to focus on mindset

 

Because thought patterns are learned, and once they are ingrained in your mind, your mind tries to keep you in that space. The more you allow yourself to repeat negative thoughts, the more ingrained these thoughts become in your mind, and the harder it is to flip those thoughts and your mindset. If you want to flip your life, you must focus on your mindset so that you can be happier and more content. And they way to do that is to train your brain. If you want a fit body, you need to train. If you want a fit mind, you need to train, as well.

 

But how? Well, I’m glad you asked. I’ve created a super-simple, 5-Day 40yearflip Mindset Challenge to get you flipping that mindset from negative to positive. It’s easy and painless, and totally FREE. And, it’s designed to make it easy for you to start focusing on mindset and actively working to flip that mindset from negative to positive.


If you want to create great things in your life, then you have to start by expecting yourself to achieve great things. Ready?  Let’s do this! Click on the link below to join, and an email from me will zoom straight to your inbox.