How to Have More Energy Every Day

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One of the most common concerns I hear from women is that they feel their energy levels are slipping lower and lower with each passing year. They ask me how they can have more energy to get through their days without feeling worn down, and blah. I mean, we all know the feeling, right?

 

But just because we no longer have the energy of a twenty-year old, doesn’t mean we have to resign to a life of yawning, cat-napping, and wondering if 8:00 pm is an acceptable time to go to bed (it, totally is, by the way.) 

 

By changing a few of your daily habits, you can have more energy every day, so that you can be more productive, and have the energy to not only do what you need to do, but also the things that bring you joy and peace like a hobby you think you don’t have time for. 

 

 How to Have More Energy in the Morning

 

Having a good start to your day is vital to having a day full of positivity and energy. Have you ever hit the snooze button so many times that you had to rush out of the house, without taking any time for yourself? Yeah, me, too. We’ve all been there. How did you feel for the rest of the day? I’m willing to bet you felt, unorganized, rushed, and probably grumpy to boot. 

 

Starting your day off rushed sets off a domino effect that will make your entire day off kilter. This domino effect sets you up for a mumbled and jumbled sort of day. First, you don’t have time to relax and plan out your day, so you aren’t mentally prepared for the day ahead. Then, you don’t have time for a few moments of peace, so you feel anxious. Then, you don’t have time for breakfast, so you grab something you know you shouldn’t eat and dash. Then, you forget something important like your wallet or a report for work. Once you’re caught in the domino effect, it can be next to impossible to stop it from all tumbling down. 

An energetic, productive, and good-vibes day starts with a good morning. 


You Snooze You Lose 

 

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Resist the snooze button! I know getting up with the first alarm is pretty damn hard. But did you know that waking up and falling back asleep for a few minutes, only to wake up again zaps your energy? That little cat nap signals to your body that you are too tired to wake up. It will make you sleepier, and not just for the morning, but for the entire day. It can be hard as hell to flip this habit, but you just have to train yourself to get up as soon as your alarm goes off.

More than during any other time of the day, 10 or 15 minutes can make or break your morning. Set your alarm 15 minutes earlier than you normally do, and make it a goal to wake up as soon as the alarm goes off.

 

Another benefit to waking up 15 minutes earlier is that these 15 minutes can be used as a gift to yourself—a gift of self care. Nothing zaps our energy more than stress, so beat stress to the punch by taking good care of yourself.

 

Easy flips to add into your morning routine to start your day off stress-free:

 

·     Sit up in your bed, stretch and spend 5 minutes breathing deeply

·     Write out your to-do list and get yourself psyched to cross everything off your list today

·     Get on YouTube and do a 15 minute at-home yoga sech

 

 Read More: How to Start Your Day Off Right with a Morning Routine

Bump Up Your Energy with Some Morning Exercise


Getting your blood pumping in the morning is one of the best ways to flip from zzzzzzzzz to energized. Taking an early morning jog may not sound appealing at 6:00, but once you get used to it, there’s no going back. If you aren’t used to exercising in the morning, start off with small attainable goals. A 5,000-step brisk walk is perfectly adequate! 

An early morning walk works double-duty toward working to your health and wellness goals—firstly, you get your body moving and fit, and secondly, you get to clear your mind. Win/win. During the day, we are all so busy that we forget to take time out for ourselves. If you get in the habit of exercising in the morning, you are setting yourself up for success.


Up-Level Your Morning Shower

 

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Let’s flip from thinking about the shower as just a time and place to get your clean and presentable to the public. Let’s make a mini spa time out of our morning shower (or evening shower—I know people have some strong opinions on if they should show in the morning or before bed. And your opinions are valid, girl, valid.) 

 

Shower time is a great time to relax. Get that temperature just right and take a minute to feel the water wash over you. Water is therapeutic and does wonders for our souls. Mindfully breathe in the scents from your shampoos and soaps and give yourself some zen time. 


While you are alone with yourself, and naked, use this time to be thankful to your body. Pass no judgement on your body. Tell yourself that you are beautiful, and you are grateful for your body. Tell yourself that you are full of energy and excited for the day ahead. Get your positivity vibes flowing! You deserve to love yourself. Get in the habit of doing this every time you shower. At first, you’ll have to remind yourself, but soon it will become a habit. Starting your day off with self love and a positive outlook will boost your spirits, which in turn will boost your energy.

 
If you can handle a bit of zing in the morning, consider contrast showering (which is simply switching from hot water to cold water during your shower.) Studies show that contrast showering boosts immunity, improves blood circulation, regulates body temperature, enhances lymphatic movements and deepens breathing. A cold shower also has an effect on the mood by alleviating depression and increasing energy and wellbeing. The hot water brings blood flow to the skin’s surface while the cold water brings blood flow inward to the organs. This is beneficial for detox and circulation.


Some people alternate between hot and cold water in spurts to support lymphatic drainage, such as 3 minutes of hot water, and then 3 minutes of cold. Others, however, start with a hot shower and then ease the water temperature down, ending with 30 seconds under cold water.  


How to Have More Energy with Clean Eating


Do I even have to tell you that starting your day off with a healthy breakfast is uber-important if you want to have more energy? Eat a breakfast that nourishes your body and your soul by choosing a breakfast that makes you feel proud for making a good choice first thing in the morning, is good for your health, and tastes great so that your happy taste buds improve your mood, too. Avoid added sugar in the morning. The last thing you need is to experience a sugar crash! This is how many people zap away their energy!

Instead, aim for a breakfast that incorporates protein, as protein will fill you up so that you don’t feel hungry and start snacking before lunch. 

 

Here are some great clean-eating breakfast ideas.

 

Also, learn why you should swap your morning coffee for some matcha.

 

Now, eating for energy doesn’t stop at breakfast! If you bring your lunch to work, hopefully you’ve prepared a healthy, clean eating lunch the night before so that you can grab it and go!

 

Eating for Energy Lunch Ideas:

 

Spinach and Arugula Salad with Lemon Turmeric Dressing

 

For the salad:

2 cups baby spinach

2 cups arugula 

1 cup canned chickpeas, drained and rinsed

1 cup sprouts

2 tablespoons hemp seeds

1 avocado

sea salt and black pepper to taste

 

This will make enough for 2 lunch salads. Put 1 cup each of the baby spinach and the arugula in glass to-go containers, then put half of the remaining ingredients in each container. 

 

For the dressing:

½ cup extra virgin olive oil

Juice of 2 lemons

1 teaspoon turmeric

½ teaspoon ground ginger

sea salt and black pepper to taste

1 teaspoon honey (optional)

sea salt and black pepper to taste

 

 

Combine all ingredients in a mason jar with a lid and shake until well blended. Put a single serving in a small to-go container and dress salad just before eating it. Store remaining dressing in refrigerator for up to 2 weeks.

 

 

Veggie and Quinoa Mason Jar Lunch

 

1 head of broccoli, chopped

2 carrots, chopped

2 tablespoons melted coconut oil

1/2  tsp cumin

sea salt and black pepper to taste

1 lemon

 

Basic Quinoa Recipe

1 cup uncooked quinoa

2 cups water or vegetable broth (chicken stock works well, too)

1/2 teaspoon salt

 

Preheat oven to 400 degrees.

 

  

In a medium saucepan bring the 2 cups water or broth and 1/2 teaspoon salt to a boil over high heat. Add quinoa and reduce heat to low. Cover and cook for 18-20 minutes, or until all water is absorbed and the quinoa is tender. Allow to cool. Alternatively, quinoa can be made in a rice cooker, as well.

 

 

Spread chopped vegetables out on a baking sheet, drizzle with warmed coconut oil, and sprinkle with cumin, salt and pepper. Use your hands or a spatula to mix and shake baking sheet so that the vegetables are all on one layer. Bake for approximately 20 minutes. 

 

Depending on the size of the mason jars you use, this will make 2-3 jars. Fill each mason jar half way with quinoa. Layer on the veggies and squeeze a half a lemon over each serving of vegetables. 

 

 

How to Have More Energy Throughout the Day



Learn to Identify Your Body’s Productivity Schedule

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We are all wired differently. Some of us are naturally morning people, and some of us are night owls. Tune into your body and see when you are functioning your best.

Are you groggy in the morning, but in the late afternoon have a burst of energy? Then, try to schedule your exercise or your chores in the afternoon. Do you wake up early but feel too drained after work to accomplish anything? Use those morning hours to prep for dinner so that you can just pop it in the oven or have your slow cooker ready and full of goodness when you get home. Move your self-care time to the evening during the time you used to cook dinner. You do you.

 

 


Rule the Afternoon Slump by Being Prepared to Fight Against It

 

We all know what that afternoon slump feels like, when it’s about 3:00 in the afternoon, and you’re wondering how you’re going to make it to bedtime without falling asleep, face first, into your dinner. Most of us turn to coffee or sugar to get us over the hump, but let’s explore other ways to have more energy in the afternoon.

 

1.   Take a 5-Minute Brisk Walk

 

Get moving, girl! 5 minutes is all you need to get a little movement into your afternoon. This is especially important for those of us who work at a desk. If the weather permits, take a walk outside and really be in the moment. Take in the sights, sounds, and smells around you. Feel the temperature of the air. If the weather’s bad or if you don’t have access to a safe place to walk in the afternoon, walk the hallways or take a flight of stairs. Getting your body moving and your muscles warmed up will give you a burst of energy.

 

2.   Get Your Essential Oil Boost On

 

Diffuse oils that will awaken your senses and motivate you. Essential oils are a great way to shift your mood, calm or invigorate your senses, and more. For an afternoon pick-me-up try this recipe:

 

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4 Drops Frankincense

3 Drops Peppermint

2 Drops Lemon

 

I love recommending this recipe because all the oils can be found in the Family Essential Starter Kit, so anyone with that introductory kit has all the oils they need, on hand, to make this oil blend themselves.

 

 

3.   Do the 5 Sense Flip

 

When you are feeling sluggish and disconnected, take a moment to be in the moment by using a method I call the 5 Sense Flip. Observing more of the world around you nourishes your mental state. Check in with yourself throughout the day and ask yourself if you are actually living in the moment. Living in zombie mode is one of the best ways to zap your energy! 

 

When you walk, feel your feet pressing into the ground, hear the sounds around you, feel the temperature of the air. Just be where you are and let all your 5 senses work for you. When you feel disconnected, a good trick is to implement the 5 Sense Flip: check in with your senses and ask yourself--What do I see? hear? smell? feel? taste? This is a great little flip to pull you out of the blah-zone and into living in the moment. Try it!

 

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4.    Have a Clean-Eating Healthy Snack

 

Of course, one of the best ways to boost your energy is to nibble on a healthy snack.

Although your body will be begging you for a caffeine injection or a sugar jolt, resist the urge, my friend. Instead, reach for some healthy, clean-eating snacks to help you fight the afternoon slump. 

Read More: How to Choose Clean Eating Snacks for More Energy

 

 How to Have More Energy the Next Day

 

Skin Brush Before Bed 

 

Skin brushing is easy to do, feels good and supports your lymphatic system, kidneys, and liver so that they can get to work and flush your body of toxins. This will not only make you feel healthier; it will help boost your energy. 

 

How to skin brush:

·     Get a skin brush (made for this purpose). They are super affordable.

·     Always brush toward your heart with the flow of the lymphatic fluid.

·     Start with the soles of your feet, move up your legs using a circular motion.

·     Brush from fingertips to shoulders, then chest toward your heart in long strokes. Use small, gentle circular strokes in your armpits.

·     Move in a circular motion counterclockwise on your stomach to respect the direction of digestion and encourage detoxification.

 

And there you have it! Now you know how to have more energy all day long. 

 

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Do you feel like your energy levels are getting lower with each passing year? How do you fight the battle of the zzzzzzzzzs? Let me know in the comments below!








 

Improving Brain Health for Women Over 40

Women Over 40 and Brain Health

 

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Do you ever walk into the kitchen and totally forget why you went there in the first place? Ever drive to work on autopilot when you were supposed to be driving to the grocery store? Do you forget your daily tasks if you don’t write them down?

 

Once we hit 40, it seems that our brains aren’t always able to keep up with our busy, daily lives. Brain health is something we don’t think about too much, but maybe we should. So, let’s explore what affects brain health, and learn some easy health and wellness flips that we can incorporate into our daily lives in order to improve our brain health.

 

How Does Daily Stress Impact Our Brain Health?

 

 

Stress Can Damage Your Memory and Brain 

 

When you are stressed, do you ever get the feeling that your mind is racing from one thought to the next, and it’s hard to concentrate on just one thing? When we get stressed out, the host of chemicals that are responsible for our thoughts and memories start acting and reacting at faster rates than we are used to. This creates a sense of panic and unease in our bodies and leads us to feel emotionally overloaded. No fun.

 

 

Stress Can Change the Structure of Your Brain 

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 Stress is such a powerful set of reactions and emotions that frequent stress can actually cause your brain to shrink in size, diminishing your brain health. If you continually experience high levels of stress over a long period of time, the structure of your brain can change. Studies reveal that humans who have gone through trauma and prolonged stress can lose brain cells and their brains can actually decrease in size and slow in function. 

 

 

So, What Can You Do to Improve Your Brain Health and Combat the Effects of Stress on Your Brain?

 

How to Increase Your Brain Health

 

Luckily, there are quite a few health and wellness flips we can make in order stop or reverse the effects of stress and improve our brain health, especially for women over 40.

 

 

Get Your Dose of Omega 3 Fatty Acids

 

One of the most important nutrients you should be incorporating into your diet for you brain health is your Omega 3s. Omega 3 fatty acids help your brain retain its plasticity, and there help to nurture the part of your brain that stores memories. So be sure you’re getting enough Omega 3s. You can take a supplement, or eat a diet rich in the following sources of Omega 3s.

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·      Dark leafy green vegetables

·      Chia seeds

·      Flax seeds

·      Oily fishes such as salmon, mackerel, trout, and sardines

·      Walnuts

·      Fish roe (caviar)

 

 

 

Bust Out Those Journals

 

I know I’m always harping on you to start journaling for your health and wellness, and I’m about to do it again! Writing is such a beneficial exercise for your brain health, because it employs several different parts of your brain, being a physical activity, a mental activity, and one that also ignites creativity. Writing also relies on your ability to recall information—this is why it seems easier to remember things when you write them down. The more you exercise these different parts of your brain, the better your brain health will be.  

 

 

Eat Less Sugar

 

Sugar is one of the most addictive substances we eat. Most women will tell you that they have a sweet tooth. However, studies have been linking sugar to a decrease in cognitive function. Sugar gives us high and low energy spikes, and can lead to brain fog, confusion, and a reliance on a sugar buzz to keep us going in the middle of the day. Reducing sugar intake reduces the severity and frequency of inflammation in the body. This inflammation can lead to bloating, intestinal diseases, increase in allergies, exhaustion, and even brain fog. 

 

Related: How Sugar Ages You From the Inside Out and What to Do About it



Brain-Boosting Activities

 

Get your gears moving and your brain warmed up by stimulating your brain and improving brain health. Your brain is just like the muscles in your body, you have to use it to keep it in top shape.

 

 

Have Fun and Stimulate Your Mind with Games

 

Studies have shown that the mind can become sharper through the use of games such as word puzzles, Sudoku, jigsaw puzzles, and any other game that forces you to think and challenge your mind. Not only are these games fun, but they’ve been found to improve several areas of development including memory, global cognition and has even been shown to slow the effect of cognitive impairment brought on by disease. 

 

Get Creative

When you participate in creative activities, you brain lights up with imagination. Even if you haven’t created anything since you were a kid, you still have creativity inside of you, just waiting to bust out. Creating something, like art, writing, drawing, or crafts, not only gets your brain working to improve brain health, but people who are creative on a regular basis are happier and say that they feel more balanced after taking part in creative activities.

Need some ideas to help you get creative?

Related: Using Creativity as Relaxing Self Care For Women

 

Dive into a Good Book

 

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Reading is great way to stimulate your mind and promote brain health. Scientists have been measurably track brain health improvements in people who start to take time to read. Frequent readers develop complex social skills that people who read less might lack. Reading also engages your imagination and makes your brain create images, sounds, thoughts, and ideas it normally wouldn’t have to invent if you didn’t read. This keeps your brain working in several different ways, and helps improve brain health.  

 

 

Get More Exercise

 

Over the course of a person’s life, the amount of exercise they get can play a role in how their mind develops. When scientists studies the brains of athletes after performing, they have found an increased connectivity in the frontal cortex of their brains. That part of the brain is where you process plans for the future, weed through choices, and perform similar tasks in a day. 

 

And, you might notice that when you exercise, you release stress. And, remember what I’ve already told you about stress and brain health. Releasing stress, especially through exercise, is one of the most beneficial activities you can do for you brain health and your overall health.

 

 

Meditate

 

Taking time to meditate is a great way to release stress and center yourself. But, did you know that studies have shown that meditating can increase your IQ? Win, win, win. 

 

Learn how: How to Meditate for People Who Don’t Meditate and Didn’t Ever Think They Would

Essential Oils for Improving Brain Health

Essential oils can be used to improve brain health and increase brain function. When you inhale essential oils, the tiny particles that make up the diffused oils, stimulate your olfactory receptors. These signals go right to your olfactory cortex and the limbic area of your brain, which is the part of your brain that controls feelings, emotions, memories, hormones, attention span and blood pressure/heart rate. This is why essential oils can benefit not only your physical health, but your mental health as well.

Rosemary

Rosemary is an earthy and homey scent that you can pair with a citrus oil such as Wild Orange or Lemon essential oil; it clears mental confusion and soothes feelings of tension. Diffuse Rosemary while you are working or reading to heighten alertness and focus.

Peppermint

Peppermint is naturally refreshing and invigorating. Use peppermint to lift your mood and get you motivated to learn or work.

doTERRA Motivate

Motivate is a unique doTERRA blend designed to elicit “feelings of confidence and courage will replace negative emotions like guilt and pessimism, with the doTERRA Motivate Encouraging Blend of mint and citrus essential oils.”

Herbs for Improving Brain Health

 

Nutrient rich foods like herbs give your body a punch of nutrients. And, different types fo herbs have different effects on our brain activity and brain health. 

 

 

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Ginkgo Biloba

 

Ginkgo Biloba is used to help increase brain functionality. Ginkgo Biloba thins the blood and allows it to pass through your blood vessels more easily, even in the brain. Your brain needs a constant supply of oxygen-rich blood to function, and taking Ginkgo Biloba helps get extra blood pumping through your brain. 

 

 

Tulsi

 

Tulsi is another herb that can help you to get more blood to the brain. Be careful, however, to be sure that you avoid taking it with blood thinners or if you suffer from hypothyroidism.

 

 

Ginseng

 

Ginseng is one of the most popular herbs in the world, and it’s used by millions of people who are trying to gain a boost of energy and focus while working or studying. It helps your body to deal with stress, and it can help you to age more gracefully, so it’s always a good addition to any morning herbal tea routine as well. 




Brahmi

 

Brahmi is often associated with aiding nervous system stress. Some studies have shown that it can be used to effectively reduce anxiety and increase memory recall functions. In some case it’s had positive effects on conditions like insomnia. That makes it a great aid to cope with all sorts of issues that stem from sleep disorders. Some people report that they become slightly more creative as well.

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5 Strategies to Learn How to Live in the Moment and Tap into your Intuition

Flip Your Mindset and Flip Your Life by Learning How to Live in the Moment

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Being stuck in blah-mode is like living your life on autopilot. You know, just getting through the day to day in a fog, not paying attention to the world around you, not getting out there and slaying your goals, not being in touch with your body and feelings. It’s just blah. I spend a huge chunk of my adult life living without intention, and stuck in my head instead of in the moment, all day, every day. And then I learned how to live in the moment and with intention, every day. And now, I look back on those lost days and realize how much I regret living years in blah mode.

Read More About Blah Mode Here: Why Living and Eating With Intention Will Change Your Life for the Better



How did I flip from floating through life, numbing out on food and social media, thinking that I'll get to my to-do list tomorrow, and tomorrow, and tomorrow and never, to learning how to live in the moment? 



By living with intention and learning how to live in the moment using these 5 tools:



1. Stay mindful: It is important to notice the small details of life and environment around you—this is the basics of learning to live in the moment. Observing more of the world around you nourishes your mental state, and mental well being is imperative for an intuitive soul. Check in with yourself throughout the day and ask yourself if you are actually living in the moment. When you walk, feel your feet pressing into the ground, hear the sounds around you, feel the temperature of the air. Just be where you are and let all your 5 senses work for you. When you feel disconnected, a good trick is to implement the 5 Sense Flip: check in with your senses and ask yourself--What do I see? hear? smell? feel? taste? This is a great little flip to pull you out of the blah-zone and into living in the moment. Try it!



Ideal Times to Try Out the 5 Sense Flip to Living in the Moment:

  • When you are out walking the dog, or just out walking yourself (even if it’s just to the mailbox.)

  • When you are eating! Try to avoid eating at your desk, in front of the TV, or while doing anything other than eating and socializing. Eating should be something you focus on and enjoy—savor those meals! And it’s a communal time, a time to check in on the people in your life. Try to have family dinners around the table as often as possible.

  • When you find yourself driving on autopilot (You know what I’m talking about; you decide to stop at the store on the way home from work, and only realize that you didn't turn left to go to the grocery store once you’re in your own driveway.)

  • When you are with family and friends. It can be so easy to drift back into your own head when your teenager is telling you all the latest gossip about a fight that broke out between YouTube “stars,” whom you’ve never heard of, and start daydreaming of the next vacation you’re planning to take. (Can you all tell I’m using a real life example here?) But, this is the time to deploy the 5 Sense Flip, and be present mentally with the people you are present with physically. Yes, even teenagers! lol



2. Check in with your body: Intuition is often dismissed as random emotions or an insignificant, random thought inside your head that is often ignored. This is because you haven’t learned to live in the moment, and so you are out of tune with your body. Intuition could present itself as a warning sign such as unexpected goosebumps or an uneasy feeling in your gut, or it could be a fluttering of your heart with excitement. Pay close attention to these feelings and see if you can connect what your body and mind are trying to tell you. Trust your gut a little more than usual this week and see if you discover something about yourself.

3. Avoid overeating, especially out of boredom or for a food high: Did you know that overeating is detrimental to not only your physical health, but to your mental health as well? Eating too much makes you feel bloated and depresses your mental abilities, such as concentrating. And, we all know the terrible feeling of coming down from a sugar high or food high and regretting the poor choices we've made. When we aren’t living in the moment, we tend to eat zoned out or based on emotional needs rather and physical needs.

A healthy body and a healthy mind go together. That's why here at the 40yearflip, we aren't concerned as much with weight loss for attaining a "perfect body," as we are with wellness--body, mind, and spirit. Our goal is to always eat mindfully and, if we do so, weight loss will be just an added bonus! Once you learn to eat with intention, your relationship with food changes, and you no longer have to “diet.”

Read More: Flip from Emotional Eating to Mindful Eating



4. Boost your psychological immune system: Just like with physical health, you need to boost your mental health immunity. That way, things that used to get you down won't anymore. Develop a positive outlook towards life and your environment. Staying optimistic, forgiving others, being more easy going, managing stress and avoiding mental trauma all add up and can enhance your psychological well being. This doesn't mean be blindly positive and ignoring when things go wrong. There's a huge difference between being positive and being blissfully ignorant! A person with a positive attitude is living in the moment, and is able to recognize when something is wrong, but they've just learned to proactively take on the challenge of a bad situation instead of wallowing in it. 




5. Learn to trust your intuition: Intuition is that small voice inside us--the one that guides us through the dos and don’ts of life. Your brain and body tell you when you need to exercise, when you need to eat a salad instead of a pizza (or the opposite, sometimes, you just need to eat the pizza--the important word here is SOMETIMES), when you need a self-care day, but often, we just aren't listening. Try to tune into your intuition by living in the moment and listing to that little voice inside your head, and by using these flips and strategies, and see if you can get more in-tune with yourself and living in the moment this week! 


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Why Living With Intention Will Change Your Life for the Better

Flip from Living in Blah Mode to Living With Intention

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How often are you actively participating in your own life, in the moment? How much time do you spend either locked up in your own head, or zoned out, staring at a screen, letting time pass you by? Living with intention is the secret to living a balanced and fulfilling life.


So many of us just go through life in blah mode. And we don’t even realize that we aren’t living with intention.


Why? Because it’s easy. It’s easy to just move through life without intention and just live your day to day. It’s easy to get through the day and veg out on the couch at the end of it and wait for it all to start over again tomorrow.


Sure it seems easy, but what it’s not is fulfilling, challenging, exciting, or vibrant. And, it’ll keep you stuck and not moving forward. It’s blah. It’s being stuck in the blahs.


It sounds cliché, but honestly, how often do you connect with yourself and the world around you? How often to you propel yourself though your life, slaying goals and making progress? What intentions have you laid out for your life, your year, your week, your day? Hell, what intentions do you have for this minute (hopefully, by now, I’ve convinced you to make your current intention to learn how to live with intention!)


When you flip the switch on blah mode and start living with intention, you open yourself up to living a life of design, but you also open yourself up to feeling more deeply, making more mistakes, and realizing that you are in charge of your own life.


Scary shit, right?

Yes. 


But, it’s worth the scary shit. Because once you flip out of blah mode, and start living with intention, you can live a life by design. You can bust out of floating through life and start living each day with intention. And these single days of living with intention, build on each other, one by one, until they create a well-designed life.


By living with intention, you can build, day by day, an entirely new life, whatever that looks like for you. For someone, it could be as simple as learning to live with more gratitude, so that they could be happier on a daily basis. For others, it could be totally starting over, in midlife, with a new career, relationship, new life.


And, while you are on this journey to flipping your life, by being actively present in yourself and living with intention, you will manifest joy. You will begin to love each day. You will feel your body move. You will taste every bite of food. You will feel balanced. You will feel grounded. You’ll feel some bad stuff, too, but you’ll be more equipped to face these things, with intention.


And you will make progress in your life. You will set goals and reach them. Whatever those goals may be.



How to flip from the blah mode to living with intention:

 

1.     Living with intention requires making thoughtful and informed decisions. You can start with what you want to get out of today. Or, if you are a think-big kind of girl, start thinking long-term. What do you want to accomplish? What do you want to own? What kind of life do you want to live? What hobby should you be enjoying? Where do you want to travel to? What do you want to learn? Make some choices and then choose your actions each day in accordance with those objectives.



2.     Every time you do something ask yourself why. Why is it you everything you do. You should be able to recognize why you choose to do certain things. 

 

To live with intention, you must evaluate and understand yourself. Why do you do the things you do? Why do you fail to do the things you don’t do?

 

·     What motivates your actions each day? Are you moving toward short-term pleasure or avoiding short-term pain? Or are your actions directed toward an intentional purpose?




·     Before taking any action, ask yourself what your intention is. Is spending 2 hours on Facebook helping you reach your goals for today? For the week, month, year, life? Then don’t do it. However, if you are feeling like you haven’t been in touch with family and friends lately because you’ve been too busy at work, spending 2 hours on Facebook might be what you need to do in order to feel reconnected.  




·     Evaluate all of your chosen and avoided behaviors. Learn what make you tick. And, what actions do you avoid taking because it’s just easier not do? Should you have cleaned your garage out like months ago? Is there a doctor’s appointment you’ve been putting off? Putting things off seems easier than doing them, but in reality, it’s not. They will still need to be done, eventually, and your brain will nag you until you do it. This, in the end, will just make you feel bad about yourself. So, flip out of procrastination and get shit done.

3.     Try to choose what’s productive and important over what is easy. Living with intention involves taking effective action over choosing the easy way. Continuously ask yourself, “Is this the most effective action I could be taking?”




4.     Flip your habits. Evaluate your bad habits and flip them! When do you tend to waste time? Do you get enough sleep? Are you in tune with your body? Do you eat with intention? Do you take time for self care? Do you take time to create a pleasant environment? 

 

Evaluate your habits and flip the ones that are not contributing to your daily and long-term goals.




5.     Lay out your intentions for each day. Carve out 5-10 minutes a day to decide on your daily goals and what you intend to do each day. I find that my Bullet Journal is invaluable for this. I don’t know about you all, but the older I get, the more I forget. I need to write down anything that I need to remember.




6.     Be proactive. Don’t leave everything to the last minute. The feeling of getting ahead of your goals and getting shit done is amazing! It feels way better than eating a plate of cookies (which, let’s not lie, sometimes feels pretty darn good, too.) Celebrate every victory. Congratulate yourself for every goal met. And, it’s 100% true that when your to-do list is all neatly crossed off, you sleep better and feel happier.




7.     The key to intentional living is mindfulness in all parts of life. Be mindful of your intentions, thoughts, eating, actions, goals, and of living in the moment.

 

Related: 5 Strategies to Learn How to Live in the Moment

8.    Be a mindful eater. Eating is vital to live and is a pleasure. But so many people eat mindlessly and without intention. It is vital to your health to be a mindful eater. Just as with goals and intention, when you eat, you ask yourself why. Why are you eating what you’ve chosen to eat. Most of the time, the answer should be because you are hungry, and you’ve chosen to eat something that is nutritious, and delicious. Sometimes, however, it will be, well, I really want a piece of cake today. I haven’t had cake in a while. It’s a nice treat, and I trust myself to make healthy choices after this yummy indulgence. And, I’m going to enjoy the hell out of this piece of cake.

 

You must make conscious decisions and question your thoughts and actions.Seek to be more aware of your desires and choose your behaviors accordingly. Habits can be the bane of intentional living unless you chose your habits intentionally.

 

Be mindful and take responsibility for your results, and you’ll find that more of your results please you.

 

So, set an intention for today and then get out there and slay it! Write in the comments (scroll down passed the contest form) one small goal you hope to check off your list this week so that we can all send you productive and positive vibes. I’ll go first!

How to Declutter Your Mind So You Can Feel Balanced

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We are more in control of our own emotions, thought patterns, and mood than we give ourselves credit for. Most of us believe that our brains just work on their own wave lengths, and we are just along for the ride. Well, my 40yearflip friends, this is simply not true. Or more accurately, it doesn’t have to be true. We all accept the fact that if we want a healthy body, we need to exercise our bodies in order for them to be strong, and vibrant. So why don’t we accept the same for our minds? In order to feel balanced, you have to learn to declutter your mind.

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It’s 100% true. If you want your mind to be healthy, happy, and balanced, you need to work on your thought patterns, be in tune with your own moods, and declutter your mind. And, yes, this takes practice. But think of it as taking your brain to the gym. 



How to Declutter Your Mind Exercise #1:  Flip Negative Thoughts Right the Hell On Out ASAP

 

Once you get in the habit of remembering to implement this exercise, it becomes your most powerful tool to being happier. But, remembering to do it is the hard part. All you have to do, whenever you find yourself thinking a negative thought, particularly one that is critical of yourself, like, “I’m no good at this,” “I look fat today,” “I feel old,” is to flip that thought right the hell on out, like pronto.

 

You don’t have to negate it with self-affirming mantras, or even by telling yourself that the opposite is true; you just have to acknowledge that you are being unproductively negative, and flip that thought out of your brain. When I catch my kids expressing negative thoughts about themselves aloud, I clap my hands and say, “Flip that thought!” It’s become embedded in the little folds of my brain at this point, so whenever I catch myself being negative, I think those words, and I do a quick hand clap. I even do this in public, which might look strange, but I don’t really care, because it works!

Read more about how to flip negative thoughts: FLIP: FROM UNHAPPY TO HAPPY

How to Declutter Your Mind Exercise Exercise # 2: Train Your Brain to Flip the Switch on Worry

 

Similar to flipping negative thoughts about yourself, you need to do the same thing when it comes to worrying about things you cannot control, especially things that you have no real reason to believe will ever happen. It’s natural for us to worry. Some degree of worrying is good, because it makes us go through life in a careful and cautious manner. But when we get in cycle of worrying about things we cannot control, on auto-loop, it can make us more anxious and feel out of balance. 

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Flip those thoughts!

 

For example, once upon a time, our house burned down. We lost almost all of our physical possessions. Luckily no one was injured. But for years afterwards, I was constantly worried that we would be trapped in a fire or other disaster, especially, for some reason, in public spaces. My worrying over this intensified whenever I wasn’t with my children. I would obsessively worry that if I went out to eat without my kids, the restaurant could catch on fire. 

 

And trust me when I tell you that housefires were not nearly the only things I obsessively worried over. I was quite adept at finding danger lurking in every corner to the point where I rarely separated from my kids, even just to run to the store. At some point, I realized that I was letting my worrying thoughts control how I was living rather than me being in control of my own thoughts. So, every time I would catch myself in the cycle of worry, I would implement the same thought-flip from Brain Exercise #1. 

 

It seems so simple, but it is very effective. And, the more you implement this thought-flip, the easier it gets. My brain will still go to these dark thoughts when I’m not being vigilant, but I flip the thoughts out as soon as I recognize them. 


How to Declutter Your Mind Exercise #3: Practice Self Care

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I see it over and over again, and I’ve lived it. Women tend to give and give and give, until they are empty and exhausted. By the time we’ve hit our forties, we’ve spent decades giving our time, love, and energy to our children, spouses, family, friends, and careers, and we put ourselves last. This leads to feeling unfulfilled, lonely, exhausted and unbalanced. And for those of us who really never carved out a life for ourselves, it can feel as if you are living a life that isn’t your own. 

 

Well, my friends, this is clearly not a healthy way to live. So many women feel guilty whenever they take time for self care. Flip that thought, right now. You must, must, must practice self care. There is nothing selfish about it. It’s a mandatory exercise for a healthy mind, body, and spirit. And, when you practice self care, you fill yourself back up, so that that there is an overflow to pour out to other people, making you a better lover, mother, friend, co-worker, and human.

 

Self care can be as extravagant as a weekend getaway with your girlfriends, or as simple as getting up 20 minutes early to read a book in silence before your day kicks off. 

 

Read more ideas for self care:

FLIP A BAD DAY INTO A MANAGEABLE ONE WITH SELF-CARE ACTIVITIES

FLIP YOUR MORNINGS FROM FRANTIC TO FANTASTIC WITH A MORNING ROUTINE

FLIP YOUR UNTAPPED CREATIVITY INTO A FUN AND RELAXING SELF CARE ACTIVITY

5 SELF CARE FLIP FOR WOMEN WHO ARE TOO BUSY TO PRACTICE SELF CARE




 

5-Minute Meditation for People Who Don’t Meditate

Are you convinced that meditation’s not for you? Well, flip that thought and give yourself 5 minutes to try this easy 5 minute mediation technique for people who don’t meditate…

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I hear ya, meditation sounds a bit woo woo. I know; I know. And, it can be. But it doesn’t have to be. In fact, in its most basic form, meditation is really just about clearing your mind, connecting to yourself, and being in a peaceful state while remaining in the moment. But mediation can be a powerful self-care tool for you, even if you’ve always thought that you would never, ever meditate. So, if you’ve never meditated before, get started with a 5 minute meditation.

 

You don’t have to sit crossed legged. You don’t have to chant. You don’t have to burn incense. In fact, the point is that you don’t have to do much. Almost nothing, in fact.  And anyone with 5 minutes on their hands can give it a try (even if—make that especially if—you have to somehow find those 5 minutes.)

 

For most of us, our internal default settings are set to d-e-t-a-c-h. We are detached from ourselves, detached from the moment, and we are detached from our own feelings. Our stress levels are always sky-high. Our habits are out of wack. Our minds are cluttered. Our bodies are exhausted.

 

Sound familiar?

 

Yeah, you are not alone.

And, on top of all of that, we feel as if we don’t have the time, money, patience, fill-in-the-blank-with-your-go-to-excuse, to reconnect to ourselves and clear our minds. But the truth is you don’t need a yoga class to relax your body. You don’t need to take a cruise to the Bahamas to reconnect with yourself.  And ladies, hear me now…it is not selfish to practice self care, and you aren’t taking time away from anyone else if you take time for yourself. So, even if you barely have the time to brush all 32 of your teeth, you can still take 5 minutes and give yourself the gift of super-simple, totally not woo woo, 5 minute mediation, even if you don’t meditate. Just try it, ok? And then later, you can thank me. 

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How to do a 5 minute Meditate for People Who Don’t Mediate (and Never Thought They Would)

1. Go to a room with a lock on it. The lock part is especially important if you have kids—even furry ones. Lock yourself in, and dim the lights. For some of us, finding a time when the house is quiet and no one will knock (or scratch) on the door, repeatedly, is tough. I suggest meditating first thing in the morning before your household wakes up, or last thing at night, if you outlast the rest of your people. For the next 5 minutes, your focus needs to be solely on the 5 minute meditation.

2. Take a seat anywhere you are comfy, literally--on the floor, bed, chair or couch. Sit comfortably. You could get all traditional and cross your legs, or if you don’t want to, don’t. You could even lie flat. Your position doesn’t matter, so long as you are comfortable and in a position you can hold, without effort, for 5 minutes. For the next 5 minutes, your goal is to get lost in your 5 minute meditation; movement would disrupt that tranquility. 

 

Related: Why You Should Focus on Mindset if You Want to Be Happier

3. Set the scene for relaxation. How can you hygge-up your space really quickly, to get your mind, body, and spirit in a space for relaxation? Ask Alexa or Siri to play some spa music. Turn on your essential oil diffuser. Draw the shades. Whatever works for you, works for you.

 

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4. Set the timer on your phone or ask your smart device to chime in 5 minutes. That way, you don't need to wonder when the 5 minutes are up. The important word here is “chime.” Do not set that default buzzing alarm sound, unless you want to be brought out of your relaxing meditation with a startle and jump your heart rate up a few notches, and thus, undoing and the good you just did.

 

5. Get your 5 minute meditation on. Close your eyes and relax. Visualize the stress and tension floating out of your body from the top of your head and pouring out of your chest. Clear your mind of all thoughts by focusing, as intently as you are able, on your breathing, and letting shit go. Do this and nothing else until your timer chimes. If you find your brain wandering (and it will), do not judge yourself. Do not think you aren’t able to mediate. Just recognize the thought and let it drift away. Focus back on your breathing and on picturing your stress and tension floating and pouring out of you. 

 

6. Ta-da! That’s it.  When your timer goes off, congratulate yourself. 

 

Try this 5 minute meditation technique every day for 5-7 days and see how it helps you feel more balanced and self-connected, because I promise it will. If you decide this is a flip that you’d like to incorporate into your life, try upping your 5 minutes to 7 minutes for a week, and then 10, and then 12-13, etc. Find the balance point that’s right for you, the amount of time you find most relaxing and beneficial. Then, incorporate this meditation flip into your daily, every other day, or weekly self-care schedule.

Want to learn more about how you can work easy, mindset flips into your life so that you can be more balanced, happier, and stress less? Join the 40yearflip’s 5-Day Mindset Challenge below. It’s fun and it’s free.

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How to Change Your Mindset and Flip Your Life

Why should you change your mindset if you want to flip your life?

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Too often we are focused on our external circumstances when we think about being happier. We will be happier when we get the kitchen renovated, get that promotion at work, or finally lose the extra fifteen pounds from that last pregnancy nine years ago. But, the truth is, none of those things have the power to make people happy. Instead, we just need to change our mindset! Only by changing your mindset can you feel happier.

 

Your mindset has profound effects on everything: self-esteem, health, relationships, and careers. Your mindset is even more powerful than your circumstances in setting the course of your life, and in terms of how happy and content you feel.  Unlike experiencing random circumstances, it’s possible to change your mindset and flip your life. With some specific activities and intentions, you can radically flip your reactions to common experiences in your life.

 

But, as with any change, it’s tough. Every day we have to scroll though endless bad news in our social media feeds, or yet another natural disaster somewhere in the world. But what affects us even more is that nagging voice in our heads that are constantly whining, “I’m so tired,” “I’m fat,” “I don’t know what I’m doing.”

And when you feel blah, you radiate blah, and you attract blah. I’m sure you’ve heard of the Law of Attraction, that law that says your negative mindset will just keep attracting more negativity in your life. Well, it’s true. And once you change your mindset, you’ll see just how powerful the Law of Attraction is. So, stop using it against you, and start using it as your tool to flip your life.

Related: 5 Minute Meditation for People Who Don’t Meditate

Change Your Mindset

 Sadly, we are often moving through life on auto-pilot and we glaze over all the best things in our life.  You know the old saying, “Stop and smell the roses.” Well, do you? I mean seriously, do you? How often do you take a walk and truly appreciate nature? Watching the sunrise or the sunset is an awe-inspiring thing. It’s 100% free, and it happens Every. Single. Day. And yet, we miss it.


Why is it so damn hard to stay in that happy, positive place?

Journaling is a great way to change your mindset!

Journaling is a great way to change your mindset!

 

Because thought patterns are learned, and once they are ingrained in your mind, your mind tries to keep you in that space. The more you allow yourself to repeat negative thoughts, the more ingrained these thoughts become in your mind, and the harder it is to flip those thoughts and your mindset. If you want to flip your life, you must change your mindset, so that you can be happier and more content. And they way to do that is to train your brain. If you want a fit body, you need to train. If you want a fit mind, you need to train, as well.

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But how? Well, I’m glad you asked. I’ve created a super-simple, 5-Day 40yearflip Mindset Challenge to get you flipping that mindset from negative to positive. It’s easy and painless, and totally FREE. And, it’s designed to make it easy for you to start focusing on mindset and actively working to change your mindset and flip your life.


If you want to create great things in your life, then you have to start by expecting yourself to achieve great things. Ready?  Let’s do this! Click on the link below to join, and an email from me will zoom straight to your inbox.

Self Care Activities to Flip a Bad Day Into a Good Day

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Bad days, we’ve all had them. We will all, inevitably, have more of them. But, my 40yearflip friends, it’s how we deal with these bad days that separates the old us from the new us. When you have a bad day, you might find yourself popping a bottle of Cabernet, and ordering a pizza to numb yourself out on alcohol and carbs. I’ve been totally guilty of that a hundred times (ok, maybe more like a thousand.) But, over time, I’ve flipped the carb-stuff and booze-binge for a better option—self care activities.


Don’t get me wrong. There is absolutely nothing wrong with a good glass of wine or a good slice of pizza every now and then. In fact, I indulge in both regularly. It’s only bad if you are using these things to numb-out. When you indulge in the things you like to eat and drink, it should be done for the simple pleasure of it.


Self Care Activity 1: Read a Good Book

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My number-one, go-to, most-favorite way to banish the blahs of a bad day is to dive into a good book. Books are magical; they transport you out of your everyday life and plop you into someone else’s. When you immerse yourself in a story, the thoughts that give you stress, kind of lay low for a while.


In fact, if the negative thoughts that were bringing you down, were actually not as bad as you let yourself believe, there’s a good chance that by the time you stop reading, those negative thoughts will have faded away.


Self Care Activity 2: Netflix and Giggle


Comedy is a powerful tool for mood lifting, and I’m not joking. Don’t underestimate the power of laughing! If you are having a terrible day, tune in to a funny movie or TV show. Re-watching an old favorite comedy can make you and laugh and bring back good memories as well.


You know the old saying, “laughter is the best medicine?” That’s because laughter releases endorphins, your body’s happy chemicals, making you feel instantly happier. This, in turn, decreases stress and boosts immunity! So laugh yourself silly, happy, and healthy.


Related: Flip Your Mornings from Frantic to Fantastic


Self Care Activity 3: Get Out of the House


If you feel like the walls are coming in on you, or if you feel like you are beginning to cocoon yourself into your house, it’s time to get out and see some different scenery and some actual humans. If this is you, then getting out to socialize and meet up with friends might be your best bet.


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When you find yourself doing nothing but working and going home, you may simply need another outlet. Try meeting co-workers for drinks after work or calling up a friend to have a girls’ night out. I suggest downloading the meetup app, and finding a group-based activity to partake in. Get a little bit out of your comfort zone and it can be very good for you.

Self Care Activity 4: Spend More Time with Friends and Family

I know I tend to cocoon myself into my own little world when I’m not feeling 100% emotionally. I tend to cut myself off a bit. But that’s no bueno! Whenever you notice this happening to you, you’ve got to flip that behavior and reach out to the people who make you happy. This was a hard flip for me to make in my life, and even though it sounds simple, like all things, sometimes it’s not. 

Related: How to Declutter Your Mind So You Can Get Happy

Spending more time with your loved ones can be great for self care. Many people think being alone is the only way to take care of themselves and relieve stress, but sometimes the best thing for you is being around others. Think about your daily lifestyle and what tends to stress you out. You might find that you feel worse when you are constantly alone, but your mood seems to lift on happy hour night or when visiting your best friend. This is a good sign that what you really need is to get out and spend more time with others.

Self Care Activity 5: Get Social Online

We are more connected now, by more devices and apps than we have ever been. There is literally no reason to ever feel alone and disconnected. Get active on social media with like-minded people. Hit me and other 40yearflip friends up on Facebook or Instagram.

Find other Facebook pages and Instagrams to interact with based on your interests. There are pages for everything from specific TV show fandoms to reading clubs to gardening, you name it, there’s a Facebook page for it. And don’t be afraid to jump in and post and participate. Social media is SOCIAL, that’s the damn point. And these pages thrive on activity and couldn’t exist without interaction.

Ok, ladies, tuck these self-care activity ideas into the folds of your brain and pull them out next time you are feeling down in the doldrums. Comment below on what self-care activities work for you, and/or, just for fun, what you like on your pizza when you AREN’T eating it to numb-out.


Flip Your Mornings from Frantic to Fantastic with These Morning Routine Ideas

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Having a good, solid, morning routine that nurtures from the very start of your day, is one of the best ways to practice self care, and to get your day of to a calm, good-vibe start. There’s only one thing that’s hard about starting a morning routine, and that’s getting a few good morning routine ideas, and actually starting a morning routine. As they say, the first step’s a doozy.

I know that most of us, first thing in the morning, want nothing more than to just keep sleeping. However, I promise you, if you make this small flip, from snoozing-button-pushing, to giving yourself the gift of extra you-time in the morning, you will come to love your morning routine.

Like most things, morning routines are personal. What works for one person, won’t work for another person. So, my 40yearflip friends, I’ll just toss a few morning routine ideas at you and, you decide which of these would work best for you.

Morning Routine Idea 1: Get Cozy with Your Favorite Morning Beverage

Whether you drink coffee or tea in the morning, you can make this part of your self care ritual. Don’t do as I used to, and pour your caffeine fix into your to-go cup, and chug it down in the car on the way to work. That’s not enjoying your morning beverage; that’s gulping it down just for the caffeine jolt.

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Everything you eat and drink should be consumed for the health of your body, or to enjoy the taste, the temperature, the texture, and the experience food and drink can give you. Savor your bites and your sips, always. 


Try to have your first cup of coffee in the morning all alone and in silence. Make it just the way you like it. Serve it to yourself in your favorite mug and savor it. Really, savor your drink. Take a minute to appreciate the smell and taste.


You can read the paper, write in your journal, or sit on your patio and listen to the birds chirping as the sun comes up while you enjoy your beverage. This is another great reason to wake up a little earlier than everyone else in your household. You will be amazed at how much better you feel with just a few minutes to yourself.

Morning Routine Idea 2: Spend a Some Time with a Book


Reading is on the best morning routine ideas. If you can set your alarm for an earlier time, it gives you the chance to catch up on your reading. Find a book that is inspirational and helps motivate you for the day. In the morning, I tend to reach for self-development books or other nonfiction. I like to be inspired in the mornings. I save fiction for the evenings.


Read just a few pages or a whole chapter, depending on how much free time you have. This can be while you are having your morning coffee, or if you are listening to an audiobook, during your morning walk. This gives you some time in the morning to not worry about what’s ahead, or get stuck in planning mode. 


Related: Flip Your Untapped Creativity into a Fun Self Care Activity

Morning Routine Idea 3: Avoid the Internet 


You want isn’t self care? Doing what almost everyone does when they have a few minutes in the morning, getting online. Stressing yourself out over work email is the opposite of self care. Reading they typos in Donald Trump’s tweets is the opposite of self care. The same goes for checking your calendar, reading the news, and scrolling Facebook. Flip this behavior right on out of your life.

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There’s plenty of time, later in the day to do all those things. When you are trying to start a new morning routine for self care purposes, you should unplug all devices. Don’t spoil your morning by letting your cell phone feed you stress. I put my cell phone on Do Not Disturb mode before I go to bed, and I don’t take it off until I’ve officially started my work day. 


Morning Routine Idea 4: Meditate for 5 Minutes


The morning is also the ideal time to meditate and repeat mantras. Mantras are sayings or words that help to center your focus and make it easier to meditate. You can also try breathing exercises or traditional meditation. If you want to take a walk in the morning, that can also help you to meditate.

Read How to Do the 5 Minute Mediation for People Who Don’t Meditate

What does your morning routine look like? Be honest! It’s ok if it’s less than zen right now. We are all here to learn and flip those habits. Tell us below so we can be inspired (or, if your morning routine is in progress, so we can commiserate!) Got a great pic of what your mornings look like? Tag us on IG with #40yearflip

Using Creativity as Relaxing Self Care for Women

Self Care For Women Idea: Get Creative!

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Despite what you’ve seen in Hallmark Channel movies, not all self-care for women involves going for taking a bubble bath. Instead, you can tap into the creativity that’s inside of you, just waiting to get out! And, please, don’t tell me you aren’t creative. You are. Everyone is to one degree or another; you probably just haven’t let your creative muses out of their cage since childhood.


Well, it’s time to unlock that cage, and get creative! The benefits of participating in a creative activity for self care are abundant. You will feel relaxed, accomplished, and you’ll tap into a well of creativity that you didn’t know you had. So, let’s channel our inner artists, writers, and creators, and reap the self care benefits. Here are some creative and artistic activities to help you practice self care:


Self Care for Women: Get Writing

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My go-to activity for creative self care is writing. Writing for self care can take many forms. If you have a story, burning inside of you, by all means, let those creative juices flow from your brain and out of your fingertips. If you enjoy playing around with words sounds, and meanings, try poetry.


Remember, no one ever needs to see the writing you do for yourself, so don’t be afraid to experiment. And most importantly, don’t be afraid of writing something that you think others will see as “bad poetry,” or “bad writing.” Your writing is no one else’s business but yours!

Related: How to Change Your Mindset and Flip from Unhappy to Happy

If you feel as if there’s an emotion in your chest or gut that you haven’t let flow out of you, or that you can’t really identify, freewriting is a great way to unleash that emotion. To freewrite, all you need to do is pick up a pen, get a sheet of blank paper, and write as quickly as you can--letting the words flow through you and on to the paper. It is important to write quickly so you don’t censor yourself. The idea here is to achieve a flow and get yourself into a trance-like writing state, so your inner feelings, thoughts, and emotions can come out. By freewriting, you can feel the feelings associated with that emotion, identify the root cause, and then address it. 


I find that when one freewrites like this, a lot of suppressed emotions can be released. Once these emotions are out of your body and on paper, you can then go one step further to releasing these feelings for good by burning the paper or tearing it up. If you aren’t ready to let them go, you could always keep the writing, of course, even if you don’t plan to ever read it again. 



Self Care for Women: Get Arty


Self care for women is about engaging in activities that makes you feel good about yourself and give you a break from whatever is causing you stress. By participating in creative and artistic self-care activities, you spend more time focusing on yourself and letting your inner creative bloom.

Artistic and Creative Self Care Ideas

Getting artistic is another super-easy way to be creative, while practicing self care. You should have some hobbies and activities you truly enjoy, just for yourself—activities that involve more than just watching Netflix and zoning out. 

So, grab a sketchbook and some art tools to draw, sketch, or paint as you wish. Don’t think you are capable of creating art? Well, you are wrong; everyone has at least a little artistic ability. Get on YouTube, and search for tutorials on sketching, watercolor painting, or even flow painting. Immerse yourself in a new way to be artistic and to create. Personally, I couldn’t draw a recognizable stick figure if my life depended on it, but it doesn’t mean I won’t try! 

Related: How to Slay Your Goals and Avoid Overwhelm

Self Care for Women: Get Coloring

Why is your Instagram account full of pictures of adults coloring? Because it’s a fun, addictive, therapeutic, and oh-so-pretty way to practice self care! I have seen adult coloring books focused on a wide variety of topics from The Golden Girls (which absolutely cracked me up, so of course I bought it!) to intricate, lacy mandalas.

Find one that fits your personality and is designed with the intricacy level you’re looking for. The more intricate the coloring book, the more patience, steadiness, and concentration it will take to complete a page. For some, a very detailed coloring book lets them zone out and get in the flow. For others, it will just seem like an unnecessary chore. We’re all different! So, flip to it, get one that appeals to you, and start coloring. This fun and easy self-care activity allows you to be creative and de-stress by simply coloring and not having to worry about anything. And bonus, it’s a great way to express your artistic side, even if you lack in artistic talent (slowly raises hand.)

Self Care for Women: Get Crafty

What better way to express your creative side than to learn something brand new? This is the perfect opportunity to get out there and try a new craft or form of art. You don’t have to be naturally artistic to be creative and enjoy any type of creative activity. Doing the activity isn’t the only way to taking better care of yourself, but also in learning how to do it. Think of some hobbies you always wondered about, like oil painting, making jewelry or metal stamping, or giving sewing or knitting a try. Go to Etsy.com and get inspired by all the great crafts, and then look up a tutorial for that craft. Or, visit some of these great crafty sites:

A Beautiful Mess  

Blueprint   

Crafting in a Green World    

30 Minute Crafts   

Get creative, ladies.

What’s your favorite way to get creative? Tell us all about it in the comments so you can inspire us. Or, get social with me on Instagram, and tag your self care pics with #40yearflip

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