Flip from Living in Blah Mode to Living With Intention
How often are you actively participating in your own life, in the moment? How much time do you spend either locked up in your own head, or zoned out, staring at a screen, letting time pass you by? Living with intention is the secret to living a balanced and fulfilling life.
So many of us just go through life in blah mode. And we don’t even realize that we aren’t living with intention.
Why? Because it’s easy. It’s easy to just move through life without intention and just live your day to day. It’s easy to get through the day and veg out on the couch at the end of it and wait for it all to start over again tomorrow.
Sure it seems easy, but what it’s not is fulfilling, challenging, exciting, or vibrant. And, it’ll keep you stuck and not moving forward. It’s blah. It’s being stuck in the blahs.
It sounds cliché, but honestly, how often do you connect with yourself and the world around you? How often to you propel yourself though your life, slaying goals and making progress? What intentions have you laid out for your life, your year, your week, your day? Hell, what intentions do you have for this minute (hopefully, by now, I’ve convinced you to make your current intention to learn how to live with intention!)
When you flip the switch on blah mode and start living with intention, you open yourself up to living a life of design, but you also open yourself up to feeling more deeply, making more mistakes, and realizing that you are in charge of your own life.
Scary shit, right?
But, it’s worth the scary shit. Because once you flip out of blah mode, and start living with intention, you can live a life by design. You can bust out of floating through life and start living each day with intention. And these single days of living with intention, build on each other, one by one, until they create a well-designed life.
By living with intention, you can build, day by day, an entirely new life, whatever that looks like for you. For someone, it could be as simple as learning to live with more gratitude, so that they could be happier on a daily basis. For others, it could be totally starting over, in midlife, with a new career, relationship, new life.
And, while you are on this journey to flipping your life, by being actively present in yourself and living with intention, you will manifest joy. You will begin to love each day. You will feel your body move. You will taste every bite of food. You will feel balanced. You will feel grounded. You’ll feel some bad stuff, too, but you’ll be more equipped to face these things, with intention.
And you will make progress in your life. You will set goals and reach them. Whatever those goals may be.
How to flip from the blah mode to living with intention:
1. Living with intention requires making thoughtful and informed decisions. You can start with what you want to get out of today. Or, if you are a think-big kind of girl, start thinking long-term. What do you want to accomplish? What do you want to own? What kind of life do you want to live? What hobby should you be enjoying? Where do you want to travel to? What do you want to learn? Make some choices and then choose your actions each day in accordance with those objectives.
2. Every time you do something ask yourself why. Why is it you everything you do. You should be able to recognize why you choose to do certain things.
To live with intention, you must evaluate and understand yourself. Why do you do the things you do? Why do you fail to do the things you don’t do?
· What motivates your actions each day? Are you moving toward short-term pleasure or avoiding short-term pain? Or are your actions directed toward an intentional purpose?
· Before taking any action, ask yourself what your intention is. Is spending 2 hours on Facebook helping you reach your goals for today? For the week, month, year, life? Then don’t do it. However, if you are feeling like you haven’t been in touch with family and friends lately because you’ve been too busy at work, spending 2 hours on Facebook might be what you need to do in order to feel reconnected.
· Evaluate all of your chosen and avoided behaviors. Learn what make you tick. And, what actions do you avoid taking because it’s just easier not do? Should you have cleaned your garage out like months ago? Is there a doctor’s appointment you’ve been putting off? Putting things off seems easier than doing them, but in reality, it’s not. They will still need to be done, eventually, and your brain will nag you until you do it. This, in the end, will just make you feel bad about yourself. So, flip out of procrastination and get shit done.
3. Try to choose what’s productive and important over what is easy. Living with intention involves taking effective action over choosing the easy way. Continuously ask yourself, “Is this the most effective action I could be taking?”
4. Flip your habits. Evaluate your bad habits and flip them! When do you tend to waste time? Do you get enough sleep? Are you in tune with your body? Do you eat with intention? Do you take time for self care? Do you take time to create a pleasant environment?
Evaluate your habits and flip the ones that are not contributing to your daily and long-term goals.
5. Lay out your intentions for each day. Carve out 5-10 minutes a day to decide on your daily goals and what you intend to do each day. I find that my Bullet Journal is invaluable for this. I don’t know about you all, but the older I get, the more I forget. I need to write down anything that I need to remember.
6. Be proactive. Don’t leave everything to the last minute. The feeling of getting ahead of your goals and getting shit done is amazing! It feels way better than eating a plate of cookies (which, let’s not lie, sometimes feels pretty darn good, too.) Celebrate every victory. Congratulate yourself for every goal met. And, it’s 100% true that when your to-do list is all neatly crossed off, you sleep better and feel happier.
7. The key to intentional living is mindfulness in all parts of life. Be mindful of your intentions, thoughts, eating, actions, goals, and of living in the moment.
8. Be a mindful eater. Eating is vital to live and is a pleasure. But so many people eat mindlessly and without intention. It is vital to your health to be a mindful eater. Just as with goals and intention, when you eat, you ask yourself why. Why are you eating what you’ve chosen to eat. Most of the time, the answer should be because you are hungry, and you’ve chosen to eat something that is nutritious, and delicious. Sometimes, however, it will be, well, I really want a piece of cake today. I haven’t had cake in a while. It’s a nice treat, and I trust myself to make healthy choices after this yummy indulgence. And, I’m going to enjoy the hell out of this piece of cake.
You must make conscious decisions and question your thoughts and actions.Seek to be more aware of your desires and choose your behaviors accordingly. Habits can be the bane of intentional living unless you chose your habits intentionally.
Be mindful and take responsibility for your results, and you’ll find that more of your results please you.
So, set an intention for today and then get out there and slay it! Write in the comments (scroll down passed the contest form) one small goal you hope to check off your list this week so that we can all send you productive and positive vibes. I’ll go first!